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Are people serious?? *Vent* LONG!!

Hey ladies!!! I haven't posted in a couple of months now, but I'm sure you all understand I'm eyeball deep in planning. Things have been building and building and I just need to release. I have 16 days left and it seems that the requests are getting more and more ridiculous! First off my guest list was over 300 this list just included family and church members that we were close to. So we were able to cut the list and squeeze in some of our close friends. Needless to say we have been solicited for invites since they've gone out, but this last one was just plain insane.FI gets a message on facebook saying, Can I come to your reception and dance? A lot of my church friends are going to be there and its going to be fun. You don't have to feed me, I can come after the food right as the bar is opening. Hit me back and let me know.Fortunately she sent this to FI and not me. Because this poor unsuspecting person almost caught it, and I would have been called a bridezilla.I guess with everything I've had to go through, FMIL spazing out on FI and I, money missing, and things just not going as planned, this person's request send me over the edge. My wedding is to celebrate our love and commitment to each other not for you to come and "party with your church friends" Sorry for the novel, but I'm just so irritated.

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    edited December 2011
    Please suggest she get with the pastor and the "church party committee" to set something up where she can dance with the church friends. Your wedding ain't the place for it. No need to apologize honey...either we've been there or will be there!
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    edited December 2011
    umm..was that a "haha, just joking" message? umm WTH? "can Ijust come and dance, my church friends are there, you dont have to feed me" who says that and on FB??
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    blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    Is this person 12? No, seriously? Relax, Relate, Release... tell your man he can tell you about all this foolishness after the wedding. No need to stress yourself about NADA! Shoot, pretend like you're high on some serious pain medication *the shyte that celebrities get addicted to* so you can go about your business not feeling JACK!
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    edited December 2011
    I know you are dealing with a lot. I probably will be too @ 16 days out. Breath - as pp said we'll all go through something similar before this journey is done. HOWEVER, you have to find the funny in this statement: "A lot of my church friends are going to be there and its going to be fun. You don't have to feed me, I can come after the food right as the bar is opening. Hit me back and let me know." Girl, I DIED @ that sentence. WTF?! People have got to stop confusing weddings with class/family reunions, revival, and Sunday school!
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    edited December 2011
    girl you don't have to apologize for ish on this board, like cat said some of us have been there OR will be there too...so to this trick that sent that elementry a$$ request to your FI...dont sweat the stupid ish!...he/she aint invited so that's that (like at me acting like I'm your DOC...LOL!)...but seriously - don't put that unnecessary mess on you, your guest list is complete; you have all of your ducks in a row since you are 16 days out, so it's ALL GOOD...as blue said RELATE, RELAX and RELEASE...you are almost there girl and then you will be a MRS to your MR...smile and K.I.M. and remember to delegate items to some of your BP!  :)
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    edited December 2011
    yeah girl, please don't stress..if anything this SHOULD be your laugh stress releaser of the day, because I am still over here dying..thats why i had to come back and re-read the post "church friends" bwhahaha
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    edited December 2011
    To add insult to injury, she and I when to high school together and the girl acted like we'd never met. Granted that was over 13 years ago, but we were never social with each other.It was funny. I asked FI several times, is she serious? She has to be trying to make a funny. She doesn't go to church on a regular basis, she's a CME member. Again WTH? I like the idea of acting high, that would probably reduce the amount of stupid requests. LOL Thanks ladies, as usual, ya'll talked me off the ledge.  
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    braxtongirlbraxtongirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Dang! It was never about seeing your union, it was only about partying with her friends. Most of the time when people want to be nice and are genuine, they will say, I just want to see the ceremony but you don't have to invite me to the reception. She totally flipped it on ya! Aint that some shiggety! SMH!
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    edited December 2011
    WOW! Well as ppr's have said, your wedding is not the place for her to ctach up and dance with church friends. If she was tight with you then obviously she would have gotten an invite. I tell you.. people...
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