Morning ladies. I'm asking because I will be. I don't have any children and while I have helped in raising my twin neices and taught Sunday School for years...the idea of being a Step mom is kind of daunting. I wouldn't change anything, but I'm just nervous about parenting. FI has been going through drama with his BM for a while now. She hasn't been taken good care of his son or her place for that matter, so FI is going to sue for custody. Amazingly...I feel very calm about all of it. His biggest concern was daycare (that he wouldn't have enough money to pay that). but when we marry I'll be able to take care of the day care as I won't be paying rent anymore...(wow look at God working it out). Anyhow..His son is three and I don't have those "mommy" feelings toward him yet. There are times I feel FI is too lenient with him...And honestly, as my grandmama would say, "That child ain't been raised." Meaning, his mother hasn't taught him the basics: Say "please" not I want or give me...Addressing adults as "ma'am and sir...And he also throws long winded tantrums. When FI would get (for several days out the week) he would teach him the above...but when he got the baby back, he'd revert! ....I'm just letting it all out. Sorry this is so long.