Fmil never cease to amaze me. Fi is at work and sends me a private message on FB about his mom getting on his nerve and to give her a call. Well supposedly she had a lot of things to complain about, but mainly me. She called me last week while fi was oot and left me a vm message stating she was just calling to see how I'm doing and that I do not have to call her back. She complained to fi that I did not call her back. Why would I, when she said on my vm that I did not have too? Luckily my new phone received vm texts and I actually had the vm text still on my phone; eventhough the vm was deleted. I forwarded him that text. He still wanted me to call after he stated his mom wants to be the center of attention but I told him "no, and I'm tired of this!" I told him months ago whenever your mother has a complaint about me, please keep it to yourself. The more I know, the more I withdraw and dislike her more.
Also this past weekend I learned from fi that his mother wants to throw me a bridal shower. I told him no. #1 that's rude when I have a mother and family/bm that would do that instead. Also one of bm offered months ago but I declined. I hate being center of attention and not really a fan of bridal showers. I will attend bridalshowers but pass on a shower for myself. My mom already thinks I favor his mother more. Not true and we had a big argument about that. So, I know my mom would be livid if his mom did this. Plus his mom and I are not bestfriends(as you can read) and she constantly complains about me, so why would she want to throw me a shower?
So how can I continue being respectful to his mom without going off on her. I've never said anything rude to her, if any just stay quiet around her but she complains about that too.