just received a wedding invite.......and

kthowell

So first today is the first day we didnt get any rsvp's in a month lol but we did get a wedding invite today July 3 and guess when the rsvp deadline is....July 14th. Now tha is what I am talking about lol....what did I do? went straight to my computer a rsvp'd (even though it literally took her a month to DROP OFF her rsvp to me smh)

mejai1

Yeah... someone told me to send them six weeks in advance (except for out of towners). We sent them out eight weeks in advance with a four week in advance rsvp deadline...

It's hard to wait to send them, but it's nice to just get the rsvps in...

keyaira04

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[QUOTE]Yeah... someone told me to send them six weeks in advance (except for out of towners). We sent them out eight weeks in advance with a four week in advance rsvp deadline... It's hard to wait to send them, but it's nice to just get the rsvps in...
Posted by mejai1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>So do you think this would still apply for an OOT wedding? I know I want my RSVP date to be June 1st, but I should not send the invite out until May 1 with an June 1st RSVP date for our July 5th wedding?

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MrsSmith2Be02

Yea, see this is why I am having 2 RSVP dates. Yep sure am for A list and B listers. Basically, so that the B listers don't really know they are B listers....I'm having a 2nd RSVP card printed that has a different date which is my absolute LAST day (oct.17 - 4wks out) and I will send those out as the No's from the A list comes or the RSVP date has passed (IF I HAVEN'T gotten to my max number of guests).

kthowell

Yea i agree but this is her first set of invites going out it took her long to get them together because she invited over 300 people

MrsJenrette

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just received a wedding invite.......and : <strong>So do you think this would still apply for an OOT wedding? I</strong> know I want my RSVP date to be June 1st, but I should not send the invite out until May 1 with an June 1st RSVP date for our July 5th wedding?
Posted by keyaira04[/QUOTE]

If the wedding it OOT.. then I would plan on sending invites out earlier, so that people who would want to attend can plan ahead of time to be there and all the accomodations arrangements, etc.
I sent my invites out almost 3 months before the wedding mostly because we had a lot of OOT guests on the list, and wanted to give them time to make bookings under the blocks that we had that expired a couple weeks before our RSVP date.

keyaira04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just received a wedding invite.......and : If the wedding it OOT.. then I would plan on sending invites out earlier, so that people who would want to attend can plan ahead of time to be there and all the accomodations arrangements, etc. I sent my invites out almost 3 months before the wedding mostly because we had a lot of OOT guests on the list, and wanted to give them time to make bookings under the blocks that we had that expired a couple weeks before our RSVP date.
Posted by MrsJenrette[/QUOTE]

<div>mmm, I see. </div>

soontobehasrouni

you are a GENIUS! I might have to do this. now how u gunna tell the A listers that took forever and a day they arent disinvited cuz they took too long LOL


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[QUOTE]Yea, see this is why I am having 2 RSVP dates. Yep sure am for A list and B listers. Basically, so that the B listers don't really know they are B listers....I'm having a 2nd RSVP card printed that has a different date which is my absolute LAST day (oct.17 - 4wks out) and I will send those out as the No's from the A list comes or the RSVP date has passed (IF I HAVEN'T gotten to my max number of guests).
Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

tcjames

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[QUOTE]Yea, <strong>see this is why I am having 2 RSVP dates.</strong> Yep sure am for A list and B listers. Basically, so that the B listers don't really know they are B listers....I'm having a 2nd RSVP card printed that has a different date which is my absolute LAST day (oct.17 - 4wks out) and I will send those out as the No's from the A list comes or the RSVP date has passed (IF I HAVEN'T gotten to my max number of guests).
Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

I also did the 2 RSVP date not for A or B list but the actual RSVP & then the one for BLACK PEOPLE...LOL. In other words I gave myself an extra week just so I would stay calm...There are 3 people I knwo of who have called & said they are unsure because of job related issues & those are the only exceptions I'm making!! As my pastor say " you're in or you're out"!

mejai1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just received a wedding invite.......and : So do you think this would still apply for an OOT wedding? I know I want my RSVP date to be June 1st, but I should not send the invite out until May 1 with an June 1st RSVP date for our July 5th wedding?
Posted by keyaira04[/QUOTE]

<div>OOT is definitely different. The majority of our friends live locally -- and I almost slipped up because we had ONE invitation to send to Egypt... For a destination wedding, you might want to do 12 weeks... Did you send save the dates though? What type of response/reaction did you get?</div>

Demea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just received a wedding invite.......and : So do you think this would still apply for an OOT wedding? I know I want my RSVP date to be June 1st, but I should not send the invite out until May 1 with an June 1st RSVP date for our July 5th wedding?
Posted by keyaira04[/QUOTE]

That is the best idea I ever heard. Two RSVP dates is so much easier. I just ordered a second batch of invitations for the b listers.