Ok, so I've mentioned that my sister and an old friend are my honor attendants. Neither of them have asked me about my want or preference for any type of pre-wedding events or gatherings. Not required on their part, so.... whatever. My mother asks me what my sister is doing for me before the wedding and I tell her I don't know of anything. All of a sudden, Mom asks if Friday night befpore the wedding is ok for a get-together of some sort. I'm sure this was my mom's idea and not my sister's. I am figuring that no one even asked my friend.
Anywhooo. I told her I was available, but I didn't really want a shower or anything. We need nothing for our home (except to furnish a few more rooms...lol). I did tell her that hanging out for a little while would be nice.
So, I get an email with a mock-up of an invitation to take me to dinner. I was asked to proof it and make it pretty. It is entitled A Fling Before the Ring. It says "Let's take Lisa to dinner to celebrate her wedding, etc., etc." She also asked for a guest list, which I provided. I know my mom is not great on the computer, but...um..... shouldn't my sister be doing this proofing and editing? Anyway, I put the wording she sent on a bridal dress background and sent it back to her.
Then, my phone rings... "Lisa. the way this is worded, do you think people will think we are paying for their meal?" Huh???? Now I'm finding out that you are inviting my friends to an event that you appear to be hosting, but they need to bring money? Oh boy. I don't want to seem ungrateful and it's certainly not my place determine what is in people's budgets. My sister, obviously, hadn't even though of doing any such thing, so here we are with trying to figure out how to word this so people know they'll have to kick in for the bill. Again....... why am I involved in this? Is it me or is this ok to do?
Nevertheless, here I am asking my Knottie Sisters to help me with something that I shouldn't even be doing. Here's the question:
What wording should be used on the invitation so it's clear that it's an invitation to gather, but not a hosted event? Is there a line of small print that could go at the bottom? What should it say?
This is what Mom sent.....
LET'S TAKE LISA TO DINNER
TO CELEBRATE HER UPCOMING WEDDING
xxx RESTAURANT
ADDRESS in MD
FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 16, 2011
7:00 P.M.
RSVP: AUDREY 410 xxx-xxxx OR TINA 410 xxx-xxxx
BY SEPTEMBER 2, 2011