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What Would You Do........

If only 1 of your BMs didn't have her shoes & everyone else did?

My issue: I have 6 girls total. One of them doesn't have her shoes because the shoe I chose for them doesn't carry her size (no...seriously). It was my fault though. I had no idea until we called all of the stores. We've searched everywhere & I think I'm gonna give up on it. We've found shoes the same color, but they're just not cute. And other shoes are too light in color. I don't want her to wear a different shoe because I think it would look odd. I'm thinking of asking one of the other BMs to return her shoes & get the same shoes as this BM. Is this a good idea? What ya think?


(Ladies, make sure to check that the shoes you select are available in all of your girls sizes. I learned my lesson!)
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    cincy2011cincy2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    This happened to me.  One of my BMs didn't fit into the largest size of the shoes I picked out.  So she ordered some that looked very similar from DSW and I'm totally fine with that.  But their shoes are black, so it's easier to find something that blends in. 

    If you have a colored shoe and it's tough to match - maybe you can buy a dyeable shoe that looks similar and bring it to a shoe place and have them dye them to match the other shoes exactly? 
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    edited December 2011
    I would not ask someone else to return their shoes. I would just let her wear the different shoes.  In the grand scheme of things, it is not a big issue.  Some people will notice... but so what.  Dont stress out over a pair of shoes...it could be a lot worst.  
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    edited December 2011
    Well...if the other bm feels "ok" w/ returning her shoe then GREAT but if not don't stress too much about it girl!


    I just asked my bm's to get a gold sandal for their dresses so i didn't have to take on that additional stres

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_would-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3fab7a85-a166-4dbe-be9c-0bcb9557dc36Post:fe847156-1efa-4d2f-8f4b-070c31d5f4d1">Re: What Would You Do........</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would not ask someone else to return their shoes. I would just let her wear the different shoes.  In the grand scheme of things, it is not a big issue.  Some people will notice... but so what.  <strong>Dont stress out over a pair of shoes...it could be a lot worst.  
    </strong>Posted by lisa4766[/QUOTE]

    I know...lol!! I've been back & forth with my feelings about it. Overall, I'm not really stressing about cause I've know for a month now. I think as it gets closer to my day, and with everything else going on, sometimes I think about it & get concerned. I'm not worried about other folks, its me cause I can be so particular about stuff. But I guess she'll just have to wear a different shoe & let it be that. Thanks for reeling me back in! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_would-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3fab7a85-a166-4dbe-be9c-0bcb9557dc36Post:966e4fc7-9fc1-40a1-996c-874cb7245ef4">Re: What Would You Do........</a>:
    [QUOTE]This happened to me.  One of my BMs didn't fit into the largest size of the shoes I picked out.  So she ordered some that looked very similar from DSW and I'm totally fine with that.  But their shoes are black, so it's easier to find something that blends in.  If you have a colored shoe and it's tough to match - <strong>maybe you can buy a dyeable shoe that looks similar and bring it to a shoe place and have them dye them to match the other shoes exactly? 
    </strong>Posted by cincy2011[/QUOTE]

    Good idea! I'm gonna look into this. Thanks!

    Oh.....the shoe is a silverish grey, if that makes any sense....lol.
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    msapril0730msapril0730 member
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    edited December 2011
    If she's not willing to exchange them I wouldn't even worry about it. I have 2 out of 7 of my BM's wearing different shoes but those 2 don't even have the same shoes.
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