Well ladies, after trying to avoid the drama as much as possible, I just can't take it anymore. I'm really trying to be positive but the closer we get to the wedding, the harder it is getting to deal with MY MOTHER!
Here's a little backround info
My mother did not raise me, my dad did. I've always wanted a relationship with her but because there's no bond/connection, it as always been difficult. The wedding was bringing us closer together, so I thought. My mother has been really acting a fool to say the least. She's been saying that she was going to do things, and then changing her mind and not letting me know. For example, she was supposed to order her dress in December for the wedding. Wait for it... dress still isn't ordered. I called today to see if she ordered it b/c it takes like 2 months to come back, wait for it... NOPE and she wasn't even gonna tell me either. Then she says she was gonna order one from Norstroms b/c "she didn't have $300 dollars to pay for a dress she was only goning to wear once. " WTHeck?! She oringinally picked the dress LAST YEAR b/c she said she COULD wear it again. Her words by the way. My thing is she has found time to do everything else she wants to do. Throw and elaborate birthday party in Dec., go to Vegas for New Year's. I have a year and a half engagement, that's more than enough time to get the things she needs done. Oh but here's the kicker, she's not going to show me what she's wearing when she does buy it. She said she's a grown woman and doesn't need my approval to wear clothes to my wedding. She said, she knows how to act and she's not going to embarrass me with what she's wearing. Mind you, we've picked out everything else together (For both my and my sister's wedding). Ugh!
Then she starts going in on me about everything that she has felt over the last year with my sister getting married this past July and now my wedding. (Mind you my mother has paid for nothing except a hotel room to get to my sister's wedding) She volunteered to do the rehearsal dinner for us b/c all of my family is coming from out of town, and she offered to pay $700 on the alcohol for the venue. She complained about it today saying "technically, the groom's family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner." And I'm like huh?! Lady you offered to do this. I paid the venue down and left a $700 balance for her. I'm thinking about just paying the balance. Fi wants to just relinquish her of everything and just let her be the MOB. But I know if we do that than I'll hear about it later. She is driving me nuts! But I am more hurt by her constant dissappointments and attitude more than ever. Anytime I bring it up she just tells me "I'm not a traditional mother." At this point, I just wanna elope...
Thanks for letting me vent. Fighting back the tears...
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