I guess its my turn....

RealHappyGal

RSVP VENTING!!

person1 & wife... via text..
me: Hey are u and (wife) coming to the wedding? Id like to get an idea of how much I still owe the venue.
(15seconds later)
him: yea


Now, in my head... You obviously WELL KNEW u were coming... were u going to tell me? 

Person 2
a lil background:  This is a hs friend.  I requsted her address 3x a 4months ago and had disregarded her when she never sent the address.  However a 2 days ago another firend from our hs click told me that Person 2's mom was diagnosed with stage3/4 cancer last month.  I contacted her via text that I had just heard, sent my condolenses and promises of prayer.  I asked if there was any way I could be helpful.  She replied today, "thank you for your kind words, we are trying to get mom in a treatment center in tex, just waiting for her therapy to begin.  How is the wedding planning going?"

Now, I felt bad for having written her off (although the address request was waaaay before the cancer dx) so I said to her that I never got her address and so I was never able to send her an invite and wanted to know if she wanted to come.  She says  "Yea, Ive been looking foward to it"........how were u looking foward to it, when u never got ano invite cuz u never game me your address... um... ok

So She says... I'll fb mssg the address to you (WHY???? WHY DONT U TXT IT< WE ARE ALREADY TXTING!!!)  I give her the link to the wedding website and told her all the info is there and that she can rsvp there as well.  I told her i'd drop the invite in the mail today.

Guess What....  there is no message from her on FB. 

I want to be super sypathetic but at same time Im like... ummm??/...??

keyaira04

I'm sorry friend. It will get better

Do you know if her address is listed in the white pages?  http://www.whitepages.com/

Maybe check there and if so, confirm with her via text/FB.

tirathemrs

Its sad that she going thru what she is going thru however i wouldnt worry about the invite or even mentioning it to her again....

MrsSmith2Be02

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[QUOTE]RSVP VENTING!! person1 & wife... via text.. me: Hey are u and (wife) coming to the wedding? Id like to get an idea of how much I still owe the venue. (15seconds later) him: yea Now, in my head... You obviously WELL KNEW u were coming... were u going to tell me?  Person 2 a lil background:  This is a hs friend.  I requeted her address 3x a 4months ago and had disregarded her when she never sent the address.  However a 2 days ago another firend from our hs click told me that Person 2's mom was diagnosed with stage3/4 cancer last month.  I contacted her via email that I had just heard, sent my condolenses and promises of prayer.  I asked if there was any way I could be helpful.  She replied today, "thank you for your kind words, we are trying to get mom in a treatment center in tex, just waiting for her therapy to begin.  How is the wedding planning going?" Now, I felt bad for having written her off (although the address request was waaaay before the cancer dx) so I said to her that I never got her address and so I was never able to send her an invite and wanted to know if she wanted to come.  She says  "Yea, Ive been looking foward to it"..... ...how were u looking foward to it, when u never got ano invite cuz u never game me your address... um... ok So She says... I'll fb mssg the address to you (WHY???? WHY DONT U TXT IT< WE ARE ALREADY TXTING!!!)  I give her the link to the wedding website and told her all the info is there and that she can rsvp there as well.  I told her i'd drop the invite in the mail today. Guess What....  there is no message from her on FB.  I want to be super sypathetic but at same time Im like... ummm??/...??
Posted by RealHappyGal[/QUOTE]

These are the EXACT reasons why I am dropping invites in the mail and that is IT! I AINT doing no phone tree, email check ups, text messaging. The date is the date and if your CARD dont' come back......SAWRY!

RealHappyGal

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[QUOTE]In Response to I guess its my turn.... : These are the EXACT reasons why I am dropping invites in the mail and that is IT! I AINT doing no phone tree, email check ups, text messaging. The date is the date and if your CARD dont' come back......SAWRY!
Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

yeah but, I do not want to deal with them at the door or that they got turned away at the door's repercussions.  Its easy to say "shoot if they aint on the list they aint getting in" but some of these people are people that I genuinely care about... but they just suck at understanding the importance of RSVP.  I also do not want to end up paying more than I thought I was going to pay

keysmit

Aww. That's too bad what she is going through.. God Bless her.. I'm there in my planning face, but I really don't understand why people chose not to respond to the invite. I just don't understand.. FI and I always respond and mail back when we get a wedding invite.. I just don't understand what people be thinking. And you are right, your HS friend could have just text you the address, what's another text. I totally understand your frustrations.. It's very irritating..

mejai1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I guess its my turn.... : yeah but, I do not want to deal with them at the door or that they got turned away at the door's repercussions.  Its easy to say "shoot if they aint on the list they aint getting in" but some of these people are people that I genuinely care about... but they just suck at understanding the importance of RSVP.  I also do not want to end up paying more than I thought I was going to pay
Posted by RealHappyGal[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>This is right... you will definitely get RSVPs almost to the last minute. We got the bulk, but the real drama came at the very end... people who wanted to bring a kid even though it's adult only. Breathe...
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</div><div>As for your OP, I'd say count her in even though you haven't mailed her an invite. Be sympathetic to her situation. Check in with her right before final counts come in just to be sure. You can even not count her in the final count you give to the caterer/reception venue because they'll make enough food to compensate for two extra people... But still make her place cards (if you're making them) And as long as this doesn't result in the addition of an extra table (and extra centerpiece), you'll be ok...</div>