ARRRRRRRRRRRRRGH!

shesheduke

I really want to choke someone seriously. I am so over everyone thinking that this wedding is about them. My FMIL is killing me softly normally we would get along great but I am ready to cut her up into little bitty pieces and burry her under someone's house. I told you all about the dress debacle a few months ago where she went out and bout a one thousand dollar dress that she wont let me see until the day of my wedding WTF who does that.

Now I was calling her today because she wanted my hair dresser to do her hair for the wedding I was trying to make her appt for her and when she told me the time she wanted I told her no she couldn't do it then and she asked why I told her that she was doing my hair at that time she had the nerve to tell me to move my appt time up or back WTF Hell no I'm not changing nothing for you. So I guess she will be finding someone else. Then I asked her about her make up I hired someone to do all the girls make up and the lady is coming at 8 and she has to do 10 faces including mine. I am sure she will have an assistant but now none of the girls want to come to the suite until 12 WTF how the heck is she going to do all 10 faces in 2 hours?????? So I tell my FMIL that she needs to come at 10 to get her make up done and she says no Im coming at 1230 cause I don't want to sweat it off. I told her that slot was taken and so was the 1:00 slot she said who is in the 1:00 slot I told her me and she said why don't you go at 8 i said because I'm the freaking bride and i want my face to be the freshest.

I swear this woman is going to make me shoot her. I signed the contract with the make up artist and regardless of if no one gets their make up done I have to still pay her the balance and I am not having it. All these people better get in line or they are going to make me go bridezilla forreal.

Whoooo to the MFin Saaaah

FI better get her in check cause she don't want to see me forreal. I have always been nice to her and I love her dearly but she really needs to realize that this day is not about her its about me and my FI

pinkcottoncandy7

Girl I could tell you some FMIL stories that would put hair on your chest. Just be glad that when all is said and done that you have a good relationship. 

PrettyCW5

Woooooo Saaaaaaaaaa....

I understand your frustration..lol that got me worked up for a second. Hopefully your FI can calm her down and put her into perspective. Don't want to see you on CNN heheheh...But it seems like you got a plan in place for what you want to do for your makeup and hair. I'd stick to it and focus on yourself. No need in you getting upset when you tried to make arrangements for others and they want to do their own thing. I do understand that you would have to pay that makeup balance and that would tick me off but I just have a feeling that they'll get it together by then (staying positive ) Praying for you and that your upcoming weeks will be smooth-sailing and as stress-free as possible!!!!

tyboyd

Do I needa come cut her?! I WILL!

djscat

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[QUOTE]Do I needa come cut her?! I WILL!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

LET'S RIDE!!! LOL  She don't want none of us. LMBO 

On the real girl I'm sorry for your pain.  Tell your FI to get his mama!

happe2gether

I AM SOOOO SORRY for this drama.  And I am so sorry for LMBO here because this is CRAZY.  I agree, FI needs to get his mama.  It just sounds like she wants the glory but I see you got a plan.  For real, AAW can roll HARD if needed but I hope things work out for you.  Tell her to kick rocks and sit her a$$ down somewhere.  No one is really going to be looking at her like that. 

Wooo saa honey.

PrettyCW5

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[QUOTE]Do I needa come cut her?! I WILL!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

hahahahah too funny!!!

Kedeisha8

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[QUOTE]Do I needa come cut her?! I WILL!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

hahaa thats how this board rolls

Sux to her she wants to upstage u on ur day but this too shall pass hopefully

shesheduke

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[QUOTE]Do I needa come cut her?! I WILL!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

YES Please and thank you. Seriously she had me boiling my head was sweating and everything. So later on FI calls her to talk about her texting me additional RSVP's mind you the deadline was 8/10 and she tells him to tell me not to be a bridezilla. HUH I'm the bridezilla no your the futuremotherinlawzilla I didn't even go HAM on her like I wanted to or like I would usually do. So FI says she's not a bridezilla she is just giving too many people the chance to change what she needs done and that is frustrating and she responds for me to stop except when it comes to her wanting to change stuff. WTF lady you are giving a damn dime for this wedding you have done a damn thing to help prepare but add ten million people to the list and irritate the dog mess out of me.

So we finally got off the phone with her and her husband around 1:00 this morning and I was more frustrated than I was before we got on the phone. I really don't know what her problem is but she got just one mo time with me and I am going off FMIL or not I am spending too much money on this day to have her try to run it.

shesheduke

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ARRRRRRRRRRRRRGH! : hahaa thats how this board rolls Sux to her she wants to upstage u on ur day but this too shall pass hopefully
Posted by Kedeisha8[/QUOTE]

I really feel like this is what she is trying to do and I don't understand why. She knows our wedding colors and the accent colors but she goes and buys a $1,000+ dress in olive green which is not in the color scheme that i don't even know what it looks like and then calls me every chance she gets to tell me she cant find shoes to go with it. Well if I knew what the damn dress looked like then I could help you find some shoes.

I already told my photographer that my FI's family gets 5 pictures and then I am ready to move on to the next I don't have time for her and these shenanigans seriously. She got married 31 years ago this is our time. I know people say weddings bring out the ugly in people but I never would have expected this EVER.

tcage001

Awwww boo I'm so sorry you have to go through this with motherinlawzilla. She needs to pump her breaks and realize it's not about her!! Seriously get over your self lady!!!!

Oh and since I'm close I"m down for a ride bye lol to get her in line!!
Is FI only son? I still can't get over the fact she won't show you her dress. Girl gye!! People know how to wait until the last minute to act up (bridesmaids not wanting to get their until noon) wtf!!

Anywho maybe you should take a day to do nothing wedding related and just relax, don't answer any phone calls or text!!! I hope it get's better because I don't want to see you on Fox 2 news lol!! Just think only two weeks away and then you'll be happily married!!!

chescam

So sorry you are going through this. Don't let it get to you. By any chance is your FI her only son. I'm going through something similar. FI is his mom's only child and up until a few weeks ago everything was going great. She said she bought her dress but it's top secret. I have  no idea what color, length, style etc. it is but I'm letting it go. Also these people are not supposed to be causing you additional stress. I'm letting everyone  know that I'm not going to be late for my own wedding, so they better have a backup ride/makeup artist/hairstylist etc. if they're running late cause I'm not having it. The show will go on without them. If I am late, it should be my fault not anyone else because they didn't want to get with the program. Goodluck

ejagers

LMBO at Woooooo to the MFin Saaaaah!
Take a deep breath, relax.  You only need you, FI, and officiant to get married.  One monkey don't stop the show!  I'm sure your girls will be there on time to get their make-up done.  And if they aren't, hey oh well, you still get married.  FMIL needs to get a grip. 

shesheduke

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[QUOTE]Awwww boo I'm so sorry you have to go through this with motherinlawzilla. She needs to pump her breaks and realize it's not about her!! Seriously get over your self lady!!!! Oh and since I'm close I"m down for a ride bye lol to get her in line!! Is FI only son? I still can't get over the fact she won't show you her dress. Girl gye!! People know how to wait until the last minute to act up (bridesmaids not wanting to get their until noon) wtf!! Anywho maybe you should take a day to do nothing wedding related and just relax, don't answer any phone calls or text!!! I hope it get's better because I don't want to see you on Fox 2 news lol!! Just think only two weeks away and then you'll be happily married!!!
Posted by tcage001[/QUOTE]

T Cage I'm not gonna count on you to do this since your wedding is this weekend I don't want you to go to jail but Ty can come down from Texas she is already married so a few days in the slammer will not do her any harm lol

Nope this is her baby boy but not her only son. Which I don't understand at all why she is acting like this and her and this dress is killing me but I refuse to let it get to me any longer but she does have my mom self conscious about her dress since she paid $60 for it half off at JC Penny with a coupon. I told me mom to wear her dress and be the star that she is and not to worry about FI's mom and her $1000 shenanigan. My mom said she wasn't trying to spend a ton of money on the dress and things for her because that would take away from the money she would be able to give me to help with the wedding. Gotta love people like that. My mom has ran everything that she is wearing pass me down to her stockings because she wants to make sure it goes with my vision for MY day.

I told FI that as long as he and I plus the pastor are there on time we are starting I don't care what family members are missing or how many people are in the audience. He agreed so that is how we are gonna roll and I am serious. She has called me 6 times today and i don't have time to deal with her mess while I am at work I will call her when I get off. Her freaking husband even called me this morning talking about how she was talking about me for an extra 30 minutes after we got off the phone with her. He even said he didn't understand why she was acting so crazy but I asked him if he said anything to her and he said NO I don't see why these people are so afraid to say something to her. I am not scared i just want to keep the peace and I think it is FI's job or even FFIL job to check her not mine but they gone push me and I am gonna have to go HAM on her and them forreal

japonica334

The previous post are hilarious...lol  I think your FMIL is confused on who's big day it is! I hope things smooth out for you and she backs up and let you enjoy your day!

PB-Bride2010

FMIL needs to stop actin' a fool and realize its your wedding!! Sorry, you're dealing with this mess!