45 days to go and..

RealHappyGal

I feel so nervous and nausous.  Im worried all the time, Im freaking out, I gained 6lbs,  and Im having nightmares.  I am the last person with coping issues.  Always cool and collected but, Im FREAKING OUT!!!!

However, day by day, fiance seems to be getting more comfy and secure with everything... Thats good atleast one of us is ok.  Just thinking about the wedding makes me start shaking...litterally, my fingers shake like Im on caffiene pills....

CreoleBride30

Girl...it's going to be okay. Everything will work out hugs. Your nerves real bad! Take some deep breaths. If it gets any worse you may need to ask your doctor for antianxiety meds. And Pray!!!!

Elizabeth80

First of all (hugs and maybe a drink or two for your nerves lol). Not to be cliche but it truly will be alright. Stressing this last month comes with the territory but don't let it get you so worked up that you gain weight, lose sleep and get more stressed. You got this!! Soo glad your FI is cool with everything- huge blessing when your man is on board!:)

MrsBoss2012

Oh no Try to keep calm. You have put in alot of hard work and everything will turn out nice and you will have a loving HUSBAND right there with you!

RealHappyGal

Honestly u guys, I think its cuz of my previous divorce.  Im worrying all the time and I think i'm genuinely scared

20pearls16

Girl I'm glad I'm not the only one! I'm not shaking yet but I am 34 days out and all of a sudden I am getting so nervous! I am always calm and on point, but lately I have been getting the jitters about everything flowing right.

keysmit

Aww. Well I think you should pray like Cha said. And don't compare your previous life with the life ahead of you. It's a reason why you met your mistah at the time you did. So relax hun, everything will be okay. I know sometimes when things happens its hard to erase the bad memories from the past. It will work out.  if it wasn't meant to be then you wouldn't have made it this far.. You know.. So just try to relax and breathe sistah and look for the life ahead of ya, not the one day (besides, you put so much work in to it all that it will all work out.. nothing is going to go wrong.. ).. but the lifetime with your mistah..  ((((Hugs))))

Key

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[QUOTE]Honestly u guys, I think its cuz of my previous divorce.  Im worrying all the time and I think i'm genuinely scared
Posted by RealHappyGal[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I may not be 45 days out but I do understand especially being divorced twice when I was young and in the military.... now that i'm out things seem different I was scared when me and my fiance' first got together 4 yrs ago I use to push him away but he kept coming back even when i told him over a year ago I was done he stayed away for that whole yr keeping in touch with my mom then I got out he still didn't try to get in touch with me this June 29, 2012 after 14 months total he came to me after visiting my mom to ask her for my hand in marrige she gave him my address he knocked on my door and on one knee asked me to marry him and at that point I was speechlees and crying cuz I had lost all faith in love and marriage he restored that for me even though 3 days later I called it off and thru the ring in the dumpster he still here and had to ring insured because he know i'm scared he knows what I went through and still here....I'm sharing this with u cause he still there don't think about ur last marriage focus on this soon to be marrige like i say i<font style="font-weight:bold;" class="Apple-style-span" color="#800080">f he can't take me at my worst then he defintely cant accept me at my best </font><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">and for yall to be at this point he accepted u at both.....</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">
</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">I hope this can ease the nervousness a little bit but if u keep on u go need meds lol! enjoy the moment thats what u should be doing right now looking at that ring and loving that man </font><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /></div>

footballwife77

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[QUOTE]Aww. Well I think you should pray like Cha said. And <strong>don't compare your previous life with the life ahead of you. It's a reason why you met your mistah at the time you did. So relax hun, everything will be okay. I know sometimes when things happens its hard to erase the bad memories from the past. It will work out.  if it wasn't meant to be then you wouldn't have made it this far..</strong> You know.. So just try to relax and breathe sistah and look for the life ahead of ya, not the one day (besides, you put so much work in to it all that it will all work out.. nothing is going to go wrong.. ).. but the lifetime with your mistah..  ((((Hugs)))) Key
Posted by keysmit[/QUOTE]

Very well said!

20pearls16

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[QUOTE]Honestly u guys, I think its cuz of my previous divorce.  Im worrying all the time and I think i'm genuinely scared
Posted by RealHappyGal[/QUOTE]

<div>Me too!!!! We need a support group. LOL</div>

RealHappyGal

ya'll gonna have me crying at work.   I guess its a combo of everything. 
Being over budget, a bunch of his people havent RSVP'd yet... Im at 100% rsvp with 45 days to go... yes yall...My peeps were on it.  So, i dont know how many centerpieces I even need.  Drama with the momma abt walking down the aisle.  The fear of divorce again.  I dreamt last night that the photographer didnt come.  Im scared that Im gonna just keep gaining weight and not fit in my dress, that I wont have enough money at the end, that its gonna rain, that he wont show up, that Im gonna trip (lol yea, thats on the list) Im just bugging....

MissusD1116

Don't worry sissy because the Lord wouldn't bring you this FAR to leave you, ok? Put it in His hands, pray and don't worry! I too am divorced and get skittish from time to time, but I have to tell myself that I am where I need to be at this time.

MrsBoss2012

You know the old school song What a friend we have in Jesus? Look at its lyrics: "What a peace we often forfeit; what a needless pain we bear. All because we do not carry everything to God in prayer." There has been so much I have piled on my plate and I even had to take a day off of work because the wedding stress was keeping me up at night. I couldn't focus when I was awake and I couldn't clear my head when I wanted to sleep. I turned it over to God because if he brought me this far I believe THIS is the man that God wants me to marry and this should be the most joyous time of my life! He will allow it all to work out. Enjoy it honey! Stay in prayer and you know we all are praying for you too!

kcc76

Ok breathe in and out it will be ok. Everything will work out the way its meant to be. I think its understandable for you to feel this way. We all my start to freak when the time gets near. Just have faith that eveything will work out just fine.