Hey Ladies !!!!
Im back from the craziest week of my life. Updates & PIPs. Ill Give u the story, alot u already know so Here it goes....
Wedding was scheduled for Thurs 8/30/2012....
Sunday - We get a call that Wayne’s mom was not doing well and we started to consider that wedding may be postponed. We both decided to go to work monday and he'd go to Maryland to see her after work. We live in North Jersey, he works in South Jersey, she lives in maryland.
Monday - I go to work and start crying at my desk... I got sent home. So, I decided to just meet Wayne at his job and go down with him to MD. We see her, she looks great. Just a UTI, she is on antibiotics and things look great. She was walking around, talking, and telling stories... Tues morning we head back
Tuesday - I was off because wedding was Thurs. Wayne goes to work and comes home. He receives a call once in N. Jersey that UTI backed into kidneys and they are considering putting her in a hospice facility. I told him that I'd drive. Since when I came home on Tuesday I had rested. We drive to the bottom of jersey when he gets another call to just stay home. After driving 1.5hrs south, we turn around. He plans to go after work on Wednesday. We decided that since the wedding was at 11am, he'd rush back up on Thursday morning, do the ceremony, stay for reception for about an hour then we'd leave our guests and make an announcement inviting them to finish eating and drinking but we'd be leaving due to his mother’s status.
Wednesday - He heads off to work and by 9 am he receives a call from his mother’s doctor... she’s in acute renal failure and these may be the final moments. He calls me "Babe, the Dr said come now, we have to cancel the wedding"...... I say "ok" and I spend Wednesday cancelling my wedding for the next day. He headed off to Maryland. I got 100% credit for the venue, the dj and the photag. I got no refund for the flowers and the tuxes. My dress was already paid for except a necklace... I told him I didn’t need it.
Me being me, pissed about not being able to get a credit for the tuxes I tell the man "I am not paying to rent tuxes and leaving them here. Give me the tuxes, I'll bring them back on Saturday.
Two of my girl friends from Maryland came anyway just to be supportive. They took me shopping and out to Fridays. After that one of them says "I am heading back tonight. I said "I’m coming with you" She lives about 30m from where Wayne & his mom were. I spent the night at her home
Thursday. - I was big girl. It was supposed to be the biggest and happiest day of my life and I was trying to figure out if my fiance’s mom is going to die. At 11:45 am I realized I should have been married and I got a bit sad. But, being the big girl I was, I was NOT going to cry. This is life, specifically mine and Wayne still loves me, he didn’t leave me, this is special circumstances ... right... no need to break down. Be strong girl.... that’s what I say to myself.
At around 3pm FI calls me to meet him at the hospice facility where his mom was. When I saw him....... the tears just flooded out. He held me and said "Whats going on ma" and I reply "this was supposed to be our wedding day". He dropped a tear & tried to wipe it before I saw, it was too late. He reassured me that he loved me and that we'd wed soon. The venue said we could even do this Saturday. I refused that date because it wasn’t enough time to call people and what if there was ANOTHER emergency....
We called the pastor together and he stated he just wanted to marry me right away. She suggested a little chapel in the woods by her in PA. We agreed. Saturday, we'd run away and get married in a little chapel in the woods.... Romantic right?
Friday - He says to me "babe, I have a window tonight. My aunt will spend the night with my mom. Let’s sneak away to NJ and get married in the chapel. I agree. We call the pastor. (she isnt the pastor of that chapel... she lives near it tho,... in PA... she pastors in a church near us, in N. NJ. My church) She says “what time ?” We say 10pm. At this time we were still in Maryland. It was 11am and we needed travel time and time to notify my mother, sister and best friend.
We start driving up. Pastor calls us back " There’s a problem. The lights went out in the chapel today, it must be done during day light. Can you make it by 7:30? it would be sunset. Very romantic." We say "yes"... we call family and say "its 7:30" They rush to get ready. 1hr later and still driving, its pastor "Im sorry guys, but we can’t do it, the license we have is in NJ, I can’t marry u in PA but, our church is available"..... "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! " I say "We'll call u back in 20m" I hang up and cry. So we decide on getting married in my church. We called her back & let her know.... now 9pm is the time. We call family again.
We arrive home and he picks up his tux (the one I count be refunded for) and heads to his house to get ready and we'd meet at the church. By now, my mom, aunt, cuz, sister and BFF had all gotten ready and we were off. On the drive there, I get a call from Wayne. "my mom has gotten worse again, I have about an hour or so and I have to head back to Maryland" I say "I’m almost at the church":.... he says "me 2". We get to the church with the flowers (that I couldn’t get a refund for) and the CHURCH IS LOCKED !!!!!!!!!!!
I GIVE UP! I say to my bff... "I’m not marrying this man... no more... I can’t take any more" just then, pastor pulls up with the keys and we are on the way in. I get in my dress. My sister pulled that corset from my size 10 frame into what felt like a size 6.
Im ready to go when my adopted brother (who was to give me away) calls and says "sis, Im around the corner.... wait for me!!' AND WE DO. He gets there and we walk the aisle to be given away to no longer my FI, but now who I call Husband.
It was the most beautiful ceremony. With all of 7 guests, the pastor, her children, my husband, myself and GOD we were wed. And God surely was there.
O and it doesn’t end there, because right now.... there is no wedding night... right? He is heading to his mother's side.... on our wedding night, the night I've waited 3years for..............
After pictures he says "I have to go, I’m sorry"... I say "Do you want me to come?" He says "I want you to do whatever u want " ... I say " I am your wife now, where u go, I go" and so my mother took my kids and off we went back t MD AGAIN!!!!! We head to his house and he changed his tux into his PJs and off we went. I stayed in my dress, I'd change later, I was so tired I didnt even want to get out the car
My girlfriend from Maryland texted me and offered the guest room again for that night. I talked to GOD about it before I replied and I said "No, tonight is my wedding night and if I’m not going to be with my husband, I’m going to be alone." That reply got her worried. She texted me back wondering if I was ok... I said "Im fine, If its not me and Wayne tonight, it’s me and GOD. I’m getting a hotel room". I book one on my phone. Half way to MD I start getting dizzy and realize my sister tried to freaking kill me. My breathing was getting cut off in the chair all strapped in like that. Hubbie pulls over and unstraps me and I get out of the wedding dress on the road and put on some sweats that I had worn to the church.
We get to the hospice facility and he asks me to wait in the car. I fall asleep in there. He comes out about an hour later and says... " I can sneak away for about 5-6hours" By now it’s after 2 am... I say "great" and off we went to the hotel room and had our wedding night.
Mother in Law is still hanging in there. She’s gotten near deaths door a few times and comes back again. She is confused and her kidneys have completely shut down. Aunty evil was down there and the only person that knows we wed from his family is his brother. He has asked that he keep it quiet for now until after things settle with his mom. I understand. So here is the link to pictures
Sorry about the UBER long story.... but it ALL had to be told
http://s117.photobucket.com/albums/o56/num1shorty/MeredithWayne08312012/