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you like a song, but it isn't 'exactly" a "wedding" song? Do you still play it at your wedding? For example I love that Alicia Keys song,"Try Sleeping With a Broken Heart" but it's a wedding...my heart won't be broken. Am I reading in too much to the wedding playlist, does EVERY song have to be about love? 
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    edited December 2011
    I used to think, whats the big deal, I should be able to play what I want. No one will really notice anyway. UNTIL, I went to a friends wedding and the dj was playing rihanna' s take a bow. I was just sitting, talking and  singing along. then  I looked up like, wth.  I would kill the dj if they played that at my wedding, no matter how much I like it. So now Im thinking that I will just have to take one day away from certain songs.
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    edited December 2011
    You might be able to get away with it though, because of the tempo of it.
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    cincy2011cincy2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're putting together a pretty strict play/do-not-play list for our DJ, and I already said I don't want any cheating (i.e. "Secret Lovers"), vulgar (i.e. "Little Freak" by Usher), or break up songs played at our wedding.  Just my opinion, but I want every song played for those few hours to be positive and loving...I don't feel like I'll be missing too much.
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    desi2002desi2002 member
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    edited December 2011
    But what about the "dancing" part? Are you just gonna play slow love songs the whole time? How can I incorporate "love songs" and "fast let's dance" songs? I'm afraid that all the slow songs will make my wedding BORING!!!
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    edited December 2011
    Oh no, we will definitely still play fast songs!  And for those I guess I'd say the standards aren't so strict, since mostly people hear the beats and the hooks vs. all the lyrics.  But we aren't playing a lot of the mess that's on the radio today (sorry I'm not into a lot of the new hip hops songs!).  LOL
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_what-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:76a63804-ec7b-406d-b7b9-9b30ad1f0a62Post:e6dfa753-b047-4a9d-88fa-eebbe60d10d2">Re: what if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I used to think, whats the big deal, I should be able to play what I want. No one will really notice anyway. UNTIL, I went to a friends wedding and the dj was playing <strong>rihanna' s take a bow</strong>. I was just sitting, talking and  singing along. then  I looked up like, wth.  I would kill the dj if they played that at my wedding, no matter how much I like it. So now Im thinking that I will just have to take one day away from certain songs.
    Posted by KSTURGIS[/QUOTE]

    <div>That is a MUST NEVER play at a wedding song. That song is very <strong>blatant. </strong>But I guess I'm having trouble picking songs that are "in between" Like Keyshia Cole's "Love". I thought it would be a good song, but when I just listened to it, there's a line that says "what you see in her you aint seen in me, i guess it was all just make believe" Soooo am I gonna have to listen to all of the songs ahead of time? I didn't think that this was gonna be this big of a task. </div>
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    edited December 2011
    I agree there is not a lot of hip hop songs today that I want played at my wedding but I'm feeling Alicia Keys and Drake Unthinkable and B.O.B. Nothing On You.. I feel as long as its not vulgar and cheating songs its all good... this is a wedding reception not a club.... but I know I am gonna want to party as well, plus the DJ or Band should be able to work it out for you if you express you concerns and wishes
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_what-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:76a63804-ec7b-406d-b7b9-9b30ad1f0a62Post:0c637b47-aab2-4315-8217-fac6590282af">Re: what if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what if... : That is a MUST NEVER play at a wedding song. That song is very blatant. But I guess I'm having trouble picking songs that are "in between" Like Keyshia Cole's "Love". I thought it would be a good song, but when I just listened to it, there's a line that says "what you see in her you aint seen in me, i guess it was all just make believe" Soooo am I gonna have to listen to all of the songs ahead of time? I didn't think that this was gonna be this big of a task. 
    Posted by desi2002[/QUOTE]

    Honestly, its been a pain in the ass. Trying to make sure its not something in appropiate. But I know Im not going to be able to please the whole crowd. So we're thinking slow/medium tempo love songs in the begining and through out dinner. But then its a party ! It will probably be more old school than new hiphop. Because the old school party songs dont have much if any cursing. And all of our friends seem to party harder on those songs. Maybe its the memories of dollar parties or not having any adult worries. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_what-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:76a63804-ec7b-406d-b7b9-9b30ad1f0a62Post:17c04f00-4f72-4ef7-8217-a02b14584011">Re: what if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what if... : Honestly, its been a pain in the ass. Trying to make sure its not something in appropiate. But I know Im not going to be able to please the whole crowd. So we're thinking slow/medium tempo love songs in the begining and through out dinner. But then it<strong>s a party ! It will probably be more old school than new hiphop.</strong> Because the old school party songs dont have much if any cursing. And all of our friends seem to party harder on those songs. Maybe its the memories of dollar parties or not having any adult worries.
    Posted by KSTURGIS[/QUOTE]

    <div>Totally agree with this - songs like Mary and Meth "All I Need" or Jazzy Jeff and Fresh Prince "Summertime".  Those songs bring back such good memories and do not include a lot of cursing.  Also, we'll use the clean versions of songs that do have curse words, so we don't offend anyone.  </div>
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    edited December 2011
    I completely understand where you are coming from. I went to my friend's wedding this past weekend and the second song played was Melanie Feona's "It kills me" the first thing my FI said was that's not appropriate to play at awedding  reception. I was like yeah you are right but the music sounds good it's the lyrics. Myself I'm thinking of light jazz and R&B during cocktail hour/dinner. Then as a tribute to my FI and I being born in the 80's a section of our music being played be all of the 80's music R&B and Rap. Like Guy, R. Kelly, Freddie Jackson, Michael Jackson etc. I know my mom loved that music and that's what I grew up on and our friends love it as well so that and then after that more party up to date music, but none of that cheating songs,etc.
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