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OK I'm bursting at the seams (kinda long -sorry)

So this afternoon I was checking my bank account online when I got a HUGE surprise - a $5K surprise to be exact!  I didn't know the money was coming my way at all.  Basically it's some form of BACK chld support for my children but I'll be holding on to it for a while to help with not only some things they need but a few small wedding items.  I know that may sound a little bad but let me explain first.  My ex was a low down, too intelligent, canniving (sp??) man who had no problem being abusive towards me so 5 years ago I took my kids and ran (literally).  And in those 5 years he has opted NOT to see them, nor willingly take care of them until a judge ordered him to do so and then he still ended up only paying CS because we forcibly took it from his military retirement.  So needless to say he owes me WAY back.  Either way our lives are MUCH better now!

I know it may sound wrong but the best lesson he taught me was to always watch your back and handle your business.  Now my kids really don't want for anything material  and the only thing I really need to pay for now are their summer camp fees, a few kid related bills (braces, etc) and maybe some summer clothes.

I know that was maybe an overshare but I was so happy today because since I'm in school now , I don't work as much and my paycheck is really too short for my comfort level.

Anyway - Thank you Jesus for providing a little extra breathing room for me right now.Smile. I just had to get that off my chest.         
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Re: OK I'm bursting at the seams (kinda long -sorry)

  • cincy2011cincy2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    God is so good!  Congratulations on the unexpected windfall and I'm so happy that you are out of that negative situation on to a better life!  Congrats girl!!  
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm so happy for you!!! You shouldn't have to feel bad about money that owed to you regardless of the situation.  You have raised your kids and told care of them financially and everything else.  So don't you feel guilty about that!!!
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    edited December 2011
    Congrats!

    That is a nice sum of extra money you had no idea about...
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  • edited December 2011
    Congrats on the funds.  God is always on time.  Don't feel bad about using any of the funds for the wedding since you were their sole provider while dad was away.  You were paying his part and your part to meet their needs and give them what they wanted.  This is just my opinion.
  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    Congrats on the unexpected windfall.  I wish some could blow my way.  LOL.
  • edited December 2011
    Congrats on the financial blessing!!!
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  • edited December 2011
    Extra money is always good. Congrats!
  • edited December 2011
    Hey Happe2gether...If I am interpreting your post correctly..... WHAT do you feel bad about.??.. That $$$ is yours and your childrens' to use how you see fit... On what  you see fit..... If anybody should feel bad... It should be him.... Having to be made to forcebly take care of your children... by court order.... He should be ashamed of himself.... God is not pleased!!!!  and Hopefully, in another month or so,,, God will see fit to drop another 5K into the account...mmmmmm  Wouldn't that be a blessing....Smile  Keep it moving!!!! Call child support enforcement and see if they got anymore coming!!!  mmmmmmm

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  • edited December 2011

    Congrats!!!
    God is so good.
  • happe2getherhappe2gether member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Ladies! I guess I was just thinking how some mothers you hear about have a bad habit of using the money they get for their children on nonsense personal stuff like purses, shoes, just stuff for them - you know what I'm saying?.  And I guess I felt a little guilty about using the money for myself.  But you are absolutely right!! I can do anything I want with it.  I'm just glad I got it for whatever my heart desires!! 

    Thanks Magnum! I'd love to call the enforcement office but unfortunately - as long as I receive support (which is NOT the full amount he should be paying) on the regular, he is not in complete arrears.  Florida is a trip!
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  • edited December 2011
    Well girl... I'm glad you atleast are getting somethin'.... I hope it continues!!!  Whew!!!!  Happy Monday!!!  
    Go get some cute wedding stuff!!!!  Hahahahaha 
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