So I had a gf who was going to do our photography but her and her husband have basically been MIA since the invite went out almost a month ago. I think they were upset that their children weren't invited. I've known her for 11 years but its been more of a one sided relationship. More of me being a great friend then the opposite. I was there for them when they relocated to our city, for the births of both of her children, I baby sat for them, spent time with them on holidays because they had not family in town, when they moved to Arkansas for a couple of years I went to visit etc.
We always had talked about her doing my wedding photography. So when FI and I got engaged I called her but to my surrpise she was like well it will be this such and such amount if I don't have another wedding to photograph that day. I was like um ok? Well fast forward, my shower was April 21st. She textes me that week to say she can't come because she has to take her hubby to the airport. I'm like lame excuse but ok. So that morning she post on FB at 9am that she just dropped him off at the airport. My shower was at 11am. I don't get it but I suck it up and appreciate those that did come. So my invites went out April 2nd and we get her rsvp back this past weekend and she writes on it. I will be there but her husband has a t ball game with their 6 year old.
So after 11 years of friendship one of the most important days of my life comes up and your husband has a t ball game? He is the coach but truly with as many boys on the team you can't tell me that one of the father's there could not cover for him.
I'm just annoyed and slightly hurt because I feel like the only reason that she is coming is to make money off doing the photography. FI's opinion is if that's the case how do we even know she will care to do the job right? I agree so we decided to look into other options.
One thing I learned this weekend at a ladies meeting is that friendships have seasons and sometimes those seasons just need to end. I feel like she and I are at this point and may have been at this point for sometime but I was just too blind to see it.