THE WAITING GAME STARTS....

kiwona

I put my invites in the mail on monday. So now I'm just waiting for people to get them and rsvp. I'm hoping no one tries to add extra people to come with them.(that will be a problem) But now that I have mailed them I know I will be hearing about how certain people didn't get an invite....(I'm waiting on that one!)

Carla1019

I think you have a good understanding on how people may respond. This can give you a chance to already have your answers ready when the dumb questions start coming in:

Can I bring so and so?
Can all 10 of my kids come? LOL!

I'm not were you are yet but one question I'm already getting is people wanting me to play match maker. They want to know what single guys/girls are coming. That is another story. LOL

A&M_Abyss

i've had several guests put an additional person along with their rsvp it's incredibly tacky, and rude.

it really puts an ill taste in my mouth.

one person from fi's side i had to school her on sunday about sending in her rsvp and how her 4yr old is not invited she had the nerve to ask me "well what am i supposed to do with her" EXCUSE ME PAUSE..........................YOU are her mother, find a sitter and no you cannot bring your new man of 6months to my wedding just bc he's lacing you in all type of glorious material things. On top of that she b*tched b/c my wedding is on a friday and i said to her exactly like this "remember back in the WINTER when you got something called a save the date, well THAT was why we sent them out so you could have time to make arrangements to attend our wedding" she was doing the ghetto girl giggle on me SIDE EYE

be prepared honey! be prepareddddddddddddddddddddddd b/c people are going to try and test your patience

Ksk2012

Haha... yall are funny. I have said time and time again I don't have a problem telling people they cannot come. I already told all my girlfriends who are not married BE PREPARED TO LEAVE YOUR MAN AT HOME! Especially if I don't like him or you just met him.

There will be a lot of people left out and I care but I just cant afford it!
I plan to have a big shower and whoever wants to come to that can!

I love all my people but cant afford everyone!

kiwona

@Carla yes indeed. My answer to most will be because it is my wedding and I said so. Anyone that knows me knows if I don't want you there you will not be there. Oh yea soon as the save the dates went out I got a few of the how many single guy/girls was I inviting like I was running match.com at my wedding....lol

@A&M I just hope no one has the nerve to add some extra person to the RSVP. I may become another type of person...lol. We are letting children come the place we are having it actually is setting up a room for the kids for us so we don't mind the kids. But the craziness from the grown folks is what will send me over the edge. I know when people start getting them some of my people will post on fb they got their invites then some people I cool with but don't want at my wedding will be like "when I'm getting mine?" I will surely answer "your not". I would have the the chick the side eye back...lol

JloveB

my family just randomly started added people...they are going to see a nasty side of me soon...lol we sent out our invites and I was nice and sent invites to the people they invited and then asked me about but the nerve...like my sister is like some of the girls are crazy for trying to go together and should bring a guest...(#1. we weren't allowing plus ones) ...say a prayer for me or my family becuase they might unleash the bridezilla in me.

@A&M.... omg...that is hilarious.

I put a FAQ's section on our wedding website it answer things like can I bring so and so  and our kids invited to the reception....well see how that goes...

busybruck

My FMIL and FFIL just tried to add an extra 10 people to the guest list, AFTER the invites went out 2 weeks ago. They saw a nasty side of me and FI. They told him he was being a terrible son and he disappointed them if he didn't add those people because they were "family" (FI doesn't talk to them at all, I have not even met them in 6 years), but they need to be invited just because they are "family". They did not like me; I have since told them that we MIGHT invite them after we see how many people decline.

lil01

Oh yes....people sure will ask the dumbest questions. The key is to stay firm & realize that you cannot please everyone. My hubby had to learn that, but he figured it out a few weeks before the wedding......lol.

ThunderKitten2011

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[QUOTE]@Carla yes indeed. My answer to most will be because it is my wedding and I said so. Anyone that knows me knows if I don't want you there you will not be there. Oh yea soon as the save the dates went out I got a few of the how many single guy/girls was I inviting like I was running match.com at my wedding....lol @A&M I just hope no one has the nerve to add some extra person to the RSVP. I may become another type of person...lol. We are letting children come the place we are having it actually is setting up a room for the kids for us so we don't mind the kids. But the craziness from the grown folks is what will send me over the edge. I know when people start getting them <strong>some of my people will post on fb they got their invites then some people I cool with but don't want at my wedding will be like "when I'm getting mine?" I will surely answer "your not".</strong> I would have the the chick the side eye back...lol
Posted by kiwona[/QUOTE]

LMAO!!! This is why my FB account will be deactivated the day our invites go out!

Soon2BSand

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_waiting-game-starts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:8e82d32a-7110-4ecd-a8b7-ccfa218ea316Post:f5a7bfce-181d-4165-8600-2b539621b4ef">Re: THE WAITING GAME STARTS....</a>:
[QUOTE]Haha... yall are funny. I have said time and time again I don't have a problem telling people they cannot come. I already told all my girlfriends who are not married BE PREPARED TO LEAVE YOUR MAN AT HOME! Especially if I don't like him or you just met him. There will be a lot of people left out and I care but I just cant afford it! I plan to have a big shower and whoever wants to come to that can!<strong> <u>I love all my people but cant afford everyone!</u></strong>
Posted by Ksk2012[/QUOTE]

<div>THIS HERE!</div><div>
</div><div>Not to mention my wedding isn't a sporting event... you aren't there just to watch. You are a witness to the vows we are making to each other and agree to be on OUR team until we leave this Earth. I haven't the time or funds to pay for Suzie Messmaker to come just so she can talk about me and mines.</div><div>
</div><div>Pishhhhh **soapbox**</div>