Your unmarried friends/co-workers/etc

QueenFromQueenz

I must Lol @ etc.

Are they treating you differently now that you are engaged? I hate to think they're hating.

But if they are oh well, get over it.

cincy2011

All of my unmarried friends have been happy for me.  They mostly have been saying that I've given them hope that there are still responsible, loving, equally yoked, fiancially stable, black men out there.  LOL

KSTURGIS

Majority have been happy for me and have treated me the same. I am sad to say that my supposed bff has been throwing me a little shade. It really makes me sad that I have to feel like I cant share my happiness or ideas with her because for whatever the reason, she is acting different.

QueenFromQueenz

I must say that I do have people who are genuinely happy for us. But I notice that all these people are happy from within, you know? I think it starts from within...

berrytr

Mostly, my friends and co-workers have been very happy for me.  But two have treated me slightly differently.

OFF

I would say that most are very happy for us.  I lost a guy friend of mine who generally disappeared whenever I was in a relationship only to pop again when I was single (even though we were strictly platonic).  I guess me being engaged called him to call it off for good.  

prncsz

I've had a little of both. People who were initally happy for us (outside of family and close close friends) and now are acting a little different. They ask why are am I starting to plan so soon and try to say a lot of negative stuff to throw me off or discourage me. I learned early on not everyone is going to be happy for you, but as long as my fiance and I are happy that's all that I care about!

QueenFromQueenz

@ OFF...I think he wanted you. No other reasoning behind his actions at all.
I've had several guy friends. I always had gotten along better with guys. But since FH and I got serious I actually had to let them go, because the FH didn't know them "like that".

But one particular guy used to text me often. Two weeks ago he randomly texted me as always and I gave him the good news. He knew I was serious with FH so I didn't think it would come as a shock. His response was "WOW, Engaged? Congrats, and I haven't heard back from him since. Guess it's just as well, but I was hoping for more from someone I've known for years.

MrClintonsFirstLady09

I am like the pp's, for the most part everyone has been very happy and supportive. I have a friend who is acting a little salty and really isn't interested in the wedding plans and I sent her an invite and have yet to receive an rsvp even with a text reminder. How I see it is, I have too much on my plate to worry about that right now. If she is there then she is, if not then that is one less plate I have to worry about and I can give it to someone who wants to be there.

KSTURGIS

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_unmarried-friendsco-workersetc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:b2cd1441-2b99-47fb-8587-c4cdbd2850bePost:a31683b0-12d0-4dc8-8af7-488d934f659e">Re: Your unmarried friends/co-workers/etc</a>:
[QUOTE]I would say that most are very happy for us.  I lost a guy friend of mine who generally disappeared whenever I was in a relationship only to pop again when I was single (even though we were strictly platonic).  I guess me being engaged called him to call it off for good.  
Posted by OFF[/QUOTE]

Fi was the same way when we we're friends. But the difference is he always told me that he wanted to be my man and never wanted to be put in the friend zone. So he would fall back when he felt too close to being completely in the friend zone. Looks like this friend may have felt the same way about you.

mahoganieyes

I really don't care what my coworkers think, I only talk about very minimal wedding stuff with only 2 or3 because last time I did someone tried to make a smart remark about me booking my venue 2yrs in advance. Why would they care so much, was it they're money?

JKeyes2011

Most of my friends have been really supportive and happy. My best friend has been supportive and then a little weird at times. I think her acting weird is that once we get married I'm moving to Europe and well to have your best friend move away isn't fun so I get where she is coming from when she does act funny.

Luckily I know so many people getting married right now its nice because we can trade secrets and other things we've learned in planning a wedding.

gatineaubride

Here is what my hairdresser says whenever we have a conversation related to that topic:
While you are planning for you big day, you usually loose some people because of jealousy envy or any other ugly feelings. T

This is particular common in female relationship and it is pretty sad though. I know so many girls that lost their BFF during planning process especially when that one is not married, single or just in unhappy relationship

QueenFromQueenz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_unmarried-friendsco-workersetc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:b2cd1441-2b99-47fb-8587-c4cdbd2850bePost:3372bad6-f150-4df7-a0bd-bdaafbbd5eec">Re: Your unmarried friends/co-workers/etc</a>:
[QUOTE]Here is what my hairdresser says whenever we have a conversation related to that topic: While you are planning for you big day, you usually loose some people because of jealousy envy or any other ugly feelings. T This is particular common in female relationship and it is pretty sad though. I know so many girls that lost their BFF during planning process especially when that one is not married, single or just in unhappy relationship
Posted by gatineaubride[/QUOTE]


To this I ask: Were they a real friend to begin with? First of all, the friends' true colors are now coming out, so does this mean that s/he was fake all along? Secondly, what kind of true friend gets jealous over a celebration? What true friend acts funny over your love and happiness?