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Inviting ex's mother to wedding

I was engaged 5 yrs ago. My previous FI died suddenly 6 months before the wedding. His mom found out I am getting married. She told me to make sure she gets an invitation. Is it appropriate for my to invite her to my wedding?
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly I think that's between your FI and you. 
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry about your previous FI!!!! And I don't think it's a problem to invite her. How does your FI feel about it? 
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    sadou02sadou02 member
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    edited December 2011
    I dont think there's anything wrong with it but as pp said it is something that you and FI have to discuss.
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    edited December 2011
    talk to your FI but I really think that if she thinks so much of you that she even wants to be invited in the first place I would. It shows that she, despite the unfortunate circumstances, wants to share in your happiness and that is a beautiful and heart warming thing to me.
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    edited December 2011
    At the end of the day we shouldn't be so concerned about what's "appropriate" especially if you all have a good relationship and FI is comfortable.  As PP said, the fact that she's happy for you and your upcoming wedding is truly a blessing since she thought at one time that you'd be her DIL.
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    edited December 2011
    My FI said it doesn't matter. I was just just concerned it would bring up some old memories for her.
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    edited December 2011
    This post actually made me a little misty eyed. The fact that she would want to share in your special day even though it may cause some sadness on her part speaks alot on how much she must care for you.
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    edited December 2011
    I say invite her especially if FI is okay with it and you two obviously have a close relationship (I could be wrong).  My son's father (not my hubby) is a butt munch and has never really been in my son's life but I am extremly close to his mother.  Even if my son weren't in the pictue I know she and I would still be really close. So I invited her and my son's grandfather to the wedding and I have not a single regret. They always call me their daughter and treat my husband as if he is one of their children.  So I can completely relate.  That is a blessing girl!!  It's so good to hear things like this. Thank you for sharing.
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP. This is heartwarming to me and if FI is ok with it , invite her.
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    edited December 2011
    Very sweet of her. If your fi is on board with it, then invite her.


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    edited December 2011

    I am so sorry to hear about your former FI. God is good and your life is presenting many new and happy opportunities.  I agree w you: I think it may be hard on her knowing that her son would have been at the alter with you.  What is your current relationship with her like? I'm getting misty-eyed too.

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    edited December 2011
    I would invite her. She is just the same as an old family friend in my book. To me, I don't see why any FI would say no. Why would he be bothered? But still run it by him. Would you be bothered if his previous FI passed and he invited her mother to your wedding? I wouldn't and I don't think you would either. 
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    edited December 2011
    Misty here too. I would invite her. She is strong, brave, and obviously cares a lot about you. Sorry about your former FI's passing. You have a testimony in that...
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