Forgive me if this is a silly question...

Gift928

this might be an obvious question, but idk what the proper "etiquette" is, so i need your advice.
 
We recieved our FIRSTTT gift from our registry yesterday YAYYYYYY!!! Now my question is do we send them a thank you card now or do we wait til after the wedding?

Carla1019

You can send a thank you note after the wedding. Proper etiquette says that you are to open all gifts after your wedding just in case the wedding doesn't happen you can easily return the gifts.

If you are given a check than you can go ahead and deposit it so that they don't have to wait for the balance to post. This would be the only exception to send a thank you note in advance.

Now that we have the "rules" out of the way. On this board we always say do what is best for you and your guests.

ejagers

Oh wow!  Good question.  I never thought about this but it was very helpful.  Carla1019 thanks so much!

TNMurray

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[QUOTE]You can send a thank you note after the wedding. Proper etiquette says that you are to open all gifts after your wedding just in case the wedding doesn't happen you can easily return the gifts. If you are given a check than you can go ahead and deposit it so that they don't have to wait for the balance to post. This would be the only exception to send a thank you note in advance. Now that we have the "rules" out of the way. On this board we always say do what is best for you and your guests.
Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

<div>I will disagree. You can open the gift now you just can't use it till after the wedding. I would send a thank you note now as well. You wedding is far enough away. I think any gifts within the last two weeks can wait till after the wedding. People may think that you didn't get the gift. I actually got a call to see if I received a gift less than 2 weeks before the wedding because I hadn't sent out a ty note. </div>

vanna0092

Great question because we also received our first gift. I will send a Thank you card this weekend because it was a check.

simbidi

I think you should send a thank you when the gift is received.  The sender would probably like to know that you received it.  However, you should not use the gift until after the wedding (just in case).  I would find it a little rude to send someone a gift and then months and months go by without hearing something from them.  It's a matter of good manners.

wallacje

We didn't open any of our gifts until after the wedding.  I sent out TY cards when we opened them.  But most of our gifts came a couple weeks before, we've received more afterwards though.

You could tell them that you've received it so they don't think it got lost in the mail and either send your TY cards before or after the ceremony.

Checks deposit upon receiving and send TY card immediately.

Carla1019

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Forgive me if this is a silly question... : I will disagree. You can open the gift now you just can't use it till after the wedding. I would send a thank you note now as well. You wedding is far enough away. I think any gifts within the last two weeks can wait till after the wedding. People may think that you didn't get the gift. I actually got a call to see if I received a gift less than 2 weeks before the wedding because I hadn't sent out a ty note. 
Posted by TNMurray[/QUOTE]

It is a good idea to let the sender know you received the package(gift) but most people understand that Thank You cards go out after the wedding. The OP asked what is proper etiquette towards gifts and sending a thank you note.

alpresberry

You should send the thank you card as soon as you receive the gift.  I've heard of people sending gifts 6 months prior to the wedding, especially if you put your website on your STD and your registry info on your website.  I know it all seems petty, but definitely proper etiqutte to thank the person immediately.   

Gift928

Thank you all for the GREAT feedback! I think i'm gonna ignore etiquette and just send the thank you card.

Your responses have been really helpful.