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Guest List Mess!! FI is beyond pissing me off!!!

OK, I've been MIA for awhile, so this is a little long.  FI and I have an A list 94 and B list 12.  The A list alone totals $660 above our budget.  My suggestion is to eliminate the B list and just invite the A.  OK, the genious wants to keep both lists!!!  I explained it makes no sense because we would ultimately still pay over what we originally budgeted.
Even better, he removed maybe three guests from the list and added five people (great uncles and aunts I HAVE NEVER MET or HEARD OF until the wedding was made "public").  The best part, I'm talking to him while I'm at work and he tells me he forgot to add someone on the guest list...another great aunt!! WTF  I politely excused myself from conversing further.  BTW- When he originally added great aunties and uncles, I asked for the last names and he said "I don't know"!  OK, if it was not for him having conjunctivitis, I would have socked him in his eye!!!!!!!!!
The finale of our discussion about the lists was this statement made by FI "Be prepared to make cuts when we send out invites"...W***T***F????  At this point, the only cuts I am willing to do involves his greatly appreciated body:)  For real, I am so close to beating his azz as he sleeps or while he showers...lights out!
Thank you..please help me!!  I just beat up my laptop while posting this.....

Re: Guest List Mess!! FI is beyond pissing me off!!!

  • edited December 2011
    Huge apologies for not warning this post is long!!
  • edited December 2011
    Oh yeah, FI has an MBA..sometimes I wonder...LOL!
  • TysWife2BeTysWife2Be member
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    edited December 2011
    Woosaa!!!

    Breathe girl breathe...

    I would suggest trying to talk to him again when you have cooled off and let him know again what the deal is...

    Sometimes they just dont get it...
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  • adgenyaadgenya member
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    edited December 2011
    Breathe...

    I totally feel you on this. About a month ago was FI said "who cares if we're already over, let's invite everyone, their family!" To which I "politely" responded, "family that you haven't seen, heard from, talked to, or know anything about because you haven't seen them since you were a kid." He is the most budget conscious person ever, but the wedding has made him lose all sense of practicality. 
  • edited December 2011
    Girl , I feel you ... Atleast he doesnt go to the store and give out verbal invites. Then call you on the spot to confirm oh and introduce..... The can make you  sick sometimes...
  • edited December 2011
    Lawd! Does he not see the $$$$ spent on extra people!?


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  • edited December 2011
    Lol. Sounds like we are marrying the same guy. I can't give you advice since I haven't found a solution for myself. Just don't cut him. LOL
  • edited December 2011

    He sounds just like my future MIL....She can work my nerves  sometimes...

  • OFFOFF
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    edited December 2011
    Ask him if he has a money tree in the backyard he plans to shake to get extra money to invite these people.  Tell him unless he does this list ie great uncle pookie must be cut. 
  • edited December 2011
    Who will be putting the invitations together, addressing them, and mailing them out? If you are doing it, I'll just "forget" to send them one. If it needs to be that extreme. In My situation, it's my mom who keeps adding people ( I had a post about that) and it might have to come down to that! LOL... I hope not though.
  • winter443winter443 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you are assembling the invites, I like aguaviolet's idea of "forgetting" to send people one lol!

    But really, if he doesn't know peoples last names, maybe he should think twice about inviting them.
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  • edited December 2011
    LMBO!!!  Thanks ladies, I really needed to laugh! 
    Well, since several of us are marrying the "same guy", can I at least push him really hard!!  I won't cut him and I am trying to breathe.
    But yeah, aguaviolet has a god point, maybe I could "forget" or "lose" some on the way to the post office.
    @ OFF- Nope, no money tree..just a MBA that apparently does not "work" when it comes to wedding stuff.  So, yeah, no Uncle Pookie
    @MyPasmita- Girl, if you figure something out please share!!

    Thanks again ladies!
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