CN: Sister moved in with boyfriend. Everyone told me not to do it. I should have listened. I kicked them both out after about a month. My sister says I'm hateful. Am I?
Long story short.
My sister decided to relocate to Atlanta with a boyfriend whom I had never met. My mom, FI and everyone else was against it. I gave my sister and her boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and allowed them to move in for a specified time and at $100 weekly.
They moved in to an upstairs bedroom and stayed in that room. They would stay up late and sleep in late. He had no money when he moved to Atlanta and she footed the bill for everything. We tried to include them both in family activities. I invited her to my make-up trial, she blew me off. The wedding planner came by the house, she said she would meet her with me, she blew me off. Mind you, on both occassions she was upstairs.
My mom and I invited them out to eat on multiple occassions, blown off completely by her. While they have both been here, she has spent little to no time with her family. NONE. I gave up.
She complained that I thought everything she did in my house was wrong, for example, we practice water conservation, she ran my kitchen faucet endlessly. We use the garbage disposal sparingly, she used it in a way that I instructed her not too and damaged it. I buy food for my family to prepare meals, he used some of the items without replacing them and that was one of the last straws for me. I had a housekeeper coming over to clean the house, including the bedroom they were staying in - she was coming at 10:30am, they were told beforehand. On the day of, she says "he's still sleeping", so we're not getting up to let her clean. I went ballistic! I told her to tell him to "get the eff up!"
Anyway, I told her to leave. This was after a conversation where I said, I don't feel like you have my back. I don't feel like you're a part of this family. She called me names. She said that his family was better and that I was a horrible person. She said that what she was getting at my house, she could find another place to live for $400 a month. I told her to find it.
Last night, she had to come get her stuff. She said she felt like she had no family. I feel like that's a situation she put herself in. She said I was hateful and she feels like she was kicked out for no reason. I just feel like I didn't sign up to take care of a grown-ass man. She threw us over for him and maybe I'm being petty, but I'm not co-signing this.