NWR: If you are an only child

kittybutton

 how was your upbringing? did you wish you had siblings? I have two cousins that are the only child and they didnt mind. We were all colse so they were like my sisters too. I ask because my FI has two boys but we only get them every other weekend and we have a daughter together (just turned 1yrs). I dont want her to be lonely (I know crazy)

We DONT want anymore, but I dont want her to be alone and not grow up with a CLOSE slibling. I guess her brothers will always be there for her but, I dont know. Im one of four so there was ALWAYS chaos and a$$ kicking going on lol. I guess she will always have her two cousins (my niece 2yrs, and nephew 5yrs) and his Niece and nephew (boy, 2yrs, girl 5yrs) and her brothers.

Carla1019

My 11 year old son is an only child. I asked him how he feels about not having any brothers and sisters and he said he felt fine. I believe he enjoys going over his friend's house and being able to come pack home and get peace.

I am the youngest of 3 and my older brother and I fought like cats and dogs growing up. I wish I were the only child. Just because a child has siblings does not guarantee that they will get along.

As long as you make play dates with other little girls she will be fine. Don't give her everything she wants is the best way to keep a child from being spoiled.

purplehoney

I have two older bros that were already in their teens and doing there own thing when i came around ( unexpectedly). My mom was also in the same situation as I was so i didn't have cousins close to my age or anything. so I will admit that I was lonely at times growing up. But as i got older i had friends etc... but I would love to have a sister my age, shoot I would settle for a distant cousin!! 

aghouston86

I'm a only child. I always felt fine about it, and had plenty of friends that were like brothers and sisters to me. Sometimes as an adult I wish I had siblings, but I'm glad I had my own space and time to myself.

cincy2011

I'm an only child and I think I turned out okay - LOL!  I don't remember being lonely b/c my family and/or friends were always around when I wanted to play or hang out.  I liked that I had my own space and all of my mommy's attention.  Ha ha!

Now that I'm an adult, I see the sibling relationships my friends have and I do sometimes wish I had a brother or sister on my mom's side.  But overall I don't regret being an only child and it doesn't automatically make you spoiled, b/c I wasn't...

hatroopes

I have six siblings (yes - my parents had seven kids! lol) Now that we're older, I really appreciate it. We are all very close and it's nice to have 6 blood relatives that I know will be there for me no matter what and vice versa. Growing up, I hated it sometimes cos I didn't feel like I got enough attention from my parents. Now I see all the sacrifices my parents had to make for us and it makes me appreciate them even more. I definitely wouldn't have seven kids like my parents, but God willing, I would like to have at least 2

vondap0601

I am an only child and sometimes I wish I had siblings only so when someone got into trouble it wasnt just me...LOL but I grew up with 6 first cousins so I was either at their house or they were over to ours.

JKeyes2011

I'm an only child and it seems like I was lonely half of the time, but then the other half I have so many cousins that when we were all together I had others to be around and I could spend time with them anytime. I loved and still love that I can have my alone time without the annoyance of siblings. I also got and I still get all of my mom's attention.

I have a 12 year old cousin who is not an only child, but his brothers are all adults so he is the only one left and he is a spoiled brat, he gets whatever he wants almost at the moment that he wants it. I feel sorry for his future because he is going to think that his how the world works.
I on the other hand had to work for what I wanted. I still got every little thing I wanted, but I had to work before I was able to have it. I had to keep my grades up and do what I had to do around the house before my mom even considered getting me what I wanted.

My FI and I decided we want at least 1 child and with both of us being only children we know how those lonely times could be so we wouldn't mind having 2 of them just for that.

lil01

I'm an only child w/ my mom, but I have siblings on my dad side. It was always me & my mom, but I grew up closely with my 2 cousins who are 6 and 8 (maybe) years older than me. So I sort of a combo of an only child & youngest. Dangerous right? But not really. As a child, I would sometimes wish I had siblings close to my age cause my cousins didn't wanna deal with me when they were teens. So I did have a lot of playdates & slumber parties w/ my friends. I do remember having a hard time sharing, but I definitely was NOT spoiled. My mom was like, "you'll get it when I can give it to you". She didn't play with that spoiled mess....lol.

mikimoto6

I am an only child and I loved it. I had and still have the same great friends (almost 30 years later). I also think that I benefitted from spending a lot of time with adults that it forced me to be more pragmatic about how I view the world, operate my life and found my way in the world as a young adult. 

I am comfortable in my own skin, enjoy my own company, and am comfident to go places and do things alone.  I never missed having sibs, so I only know my reality and I think it was okay for me.