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Decisions, Decisions....

One of my bridesmaids just called me about going to Vegas on my birthday weekend, so exciting initially, but then I thought about whether my fiance would have something planned for me that weekend. I told the bridesmaid yes, before I thought about my future husbands plans, and now he feels like I should go because that would make me happy and basically anythign he does won't match up to that.

On top of that I'm the only person that the bridesmaid called that said yes, and my mother who she talked to before she called me already told her she would pay for everything. I want to go out and enjoy a girls weekend, but not if its going to hurt my fiance and the plans he already thought of making for my September birthday.
So what do you think ladies, if you were in my shoes what would you do???

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    DancerppfDancerppf member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd be packing for Vegas. But I also would've spoke to my FH before saying yes, knowing he would be fine with it anyway. does it have to be that particular weekend? Maybe Vegas can wait for the following weekend and you can spend the original day with your boo!
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    EsquireJLEsquireJL member
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    edited December 2011
    Can you go out with the girls another weekend?
    I personally would let the FI surprise me for my bday and reschedule with the girls.
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    edited December 2011
    So I know my FI and he wouldnt plan anything compared to a vegas trip. So I would keep everything above board and tell him exactly this:

    " Babe the girls called and want to go to Vegas for the weekend of my Bday. My mom said she would pay for everything and I really want to go. But I want to make sure it is ok with you. No really ok with you because I don't want you to feel left out for my birthday because it is a girls weekend."

    he would ask how long did I know about this - I would tell him my girls just called.  And then say OK. I would feel better knowing I told him as many details as I had about the plan as soon as I got them.

    Then I would pack and kiss him as I head out the door. while you are there make sure you call and text him to make sure he knows you love him and are thinking of him and then hang out!!
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    MsRichard83MsRichard83 member
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    edited December 2011
    It is for this huge concert they are having out there the same weekend of my birthday, the "I heart radio concert," so there is no changing it. I guess I'm just going to have to let my friend know its a no go for me, and "help" my fiance book a trip somewhere nice :-)
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    wallacjewallacje member
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    edited December 2011
    That sucks. Vegas is fun!!  But you have to see what FI has planned or is gonna have planned.  Maybe now he will plan something a little bigger or SUPER special because you're not going to Vegas and it will compare to you going to Vegas but be better because he did it.
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    MsRichard83MsRichard83 member
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    edited December 2011
    Do you think I should see about us going to Vegas together on that weekend? Or would that be bad since it was already planned with the girls??
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    FabbiegirlFabbiegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I would taslk to FI now and see what he says.  If he is and it's important to him, schedule tehe Vegas trip for the next weekend.  He might see your excitement and understand.  You never know until you communicate.
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    edited December 2011
    Girl, go to Vegas and enjoy yourself!!!!  FI can do something for your bday before you go or once you return.  You can't beat a FREE trip Laughing
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