South Asian Weddings

Poll for the Married Ladies!

Well it's been kind of slow on here lately and since I am really bored I thought I would take the time to do a poll! We've had a lot of recent weddings and  I loved polls like this on my Local and Month boards when I was in the planning process!1. Wedding Date?2.  What was your favorite moment of your day (besides  getting married ofcourse!)3.  What went wrong?!4. What, if anything, would you change?5.  Your best advice for the ladies still planning?

Re: Poll for the Married Ladies!

  • edited December 2011
    Answering my own questions1. Wedding Date? July 4th 20092. What was your favorite moment of your day (besides getting married ofcourse!)  Seeing each other for the first time.  We chose to take pictures before the ceremony so our photographer set up a reveal and it was such a great moment.  It was so nice to just have that time with each other before the ceremony started.  I highly recommend this to anyone considering it3. What went wrong?! Nothing major but we did have some snaffus.. My girls and I ran late in the morning and I didn't get all the getting ready shots I wanted. The Mandap guys showed up really late and were still setting it up as the Barat was coming!  I had no idea, luckily I had a great DOC who called her assistant and had her slow the Barat down.  Somehow everything still managed to run on time.  My cousins forgot to pass out the programs before the ceremony and the Punditji kept reffering to the programs that no one had to help explain what was going on. lol  no big deal though4. What, if anything, would you change? I would have hired a more experienced Videographer...at first I didn't think I even wanted one.  My parents said we have to get one and my dad picked a guy just starting out to cut costs.  I am so glad I have the video but I am not happy with the quality/sound etc.  But it is better then nothing5. Your best advice for the ladies still planning?  Give someone reliable your camera to take pictures that way you will be able to have pictures right away!  DH's dad and sister took our pics for us and we were able to look at them on the plane on the way to our HM.  So much fun.  Also don't sweat the little stuff...in the big scheme of things it does not matter,  Your day is going to be wonderful no matter what.  Oh and hire a DOC if you can, so worth it!
  • edited December 2011
    1. 5/30/09 & 5/31/092.  Seeing each other for the first time & running around in the streets taking pictures. So much fun!3.  Limo company turned out to be a knot-stalker and owner went a little psycho on me on the morning of.... he knew just a little too much!  I ended up paying $500 more than planned.Also my aunt crossed the line and stirred up some old family drama by approaching the daughter of her sister who she fights with (the daughter was my MOH/cousin).  She pulled her out of the wedding for almost an hour.  I wish someone had told me, I would have broken that sh1t up.4.  I don't think anything!  Just wish I had known about the above situation while it was going on.5.  Plan plan plan, and take your time!  It makes your day run smoothly.  Also always keep your guests in mind, your attention to them will be remembered.
  • edited December 2011
    1) July 18th 2009 2) being carried down the aisle. it was so incredibly overwhelming, i had imagined that moment so many times before but to finally be in the moment thinking this is it, im getting married to the most absoulte perfect man for me, seeing my parents crying ahead of me, feeling all the love in the room from the friends and family...it was much more beautiful than i ever thought it could be. second favorite moment - does the entire reception count?? best time ever! 3) NOTHING!! it was flawless! Ive heard rumblings about the food at lunch not being tasty (but I had a couple chocolate fountains that saved the day and it was guju food anyway), and the dinner food getting cold ... and I think maybe towards the end of the night the petron ran out? but nothing really that stood out that day! 4) planning for pictures more. there are several shots that I didnt get in hindsight that I would have liked to (few getting ready, individual shots of me with my bridesmaids, shots of our rings/my shoes & outfits, pics with our parents before the reception). i also should have forced the DH to take pics with his groomsment. When planning the schedule he said not to factor that in, it wasnt a big deal to him...but it would have been nice. 5) let it all go the day of, and enjoy the ride. trust in your friends/DOC/family to handle it from there on out - make sure you have someone! plan ahead of time and communicate with your photogs for the pics you must have. and someone is always going to complain about something, you cant make everyone happy...so just make sure you, your FI, and parents are. at the end of the day thats what will matter.
  • Meghana55Meghana55
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    edited December 2011
    1. Wedding Date?  5.29.092. What was your favorite moment of your day (besides getting married ofcourse!)  Seeing DH for the first time at the ceremony.  We did the whole screen in front of him as I walked down the aisle.  The build up for them to drop the sheet was crazy and it was such an amazing feeling.  Another one was having all of my uncles walk me down the aisle.  And of course the reception!3. What went wrong?!  Only 2 things went wrong but they weren't too big of a deal.  One, the ceremony venue worker didn't get there at 7:00 am like we had asked so we were upset about that cause it delayed us a bit, but we made up the time and everything ran exactly as scheduled.  And they went above and beyond with everything else so it wasn't a big deal.  2nd - Our reception venue didn't put out teh champagne for the toast so we were really pissed about that at the moment.  But again, everyone already had a drink in their hands so in the end it didn't really matter.  Everything else went off without a hitch!4. What, if anything, would you change?  The only thing I would change is probably our reception centerpieces.  I would have gone for something more dramatic.  There's nothing else I would change about the whole day. 5. Your best advice for the ladies still planning?  Take time to enjoy being engaged.  A lot of couples just automatically jump into planning, guest lists, seating, centerpieces, etc. and they forget to just take a moment and enjoy being engaged.  Take your time with the planning and make sure you do your homework with regard to what vendors you book. 
  • edited December 2011
    1. Wedding Date? May 30-31, 2009.2. What was your favorite moment of your day (besides getting married ofcourse!)So many... Getting ready with my mother and my bridesmaids in the hotel the morning of the wedding.  It was so low-key and chill and I expected to be a nervous wreck, but I was so excited and happy.  Pulling up my childhood church and hearing a bagpiper (a surprise from my mother) playing a beautiful Irish ballad; I burst into tears and quickly dried them up to walk down the aisle.  Squeezing my then-fiance's hand so tight when we got up to the altar together.  Listening to hillarious and sweet speeches... I could go on.  My aunts really getting into some of the ceremonial aspects of the Hindu ceremony.  They had no idea what was going on and had a blast.  Mostly, it was a feeling of total joy, especially on the dancefloor at the Western reception.  We didn't expect our families to have so much fun together and everyone went nuts for the Bollywood tunes and Irish songs.  It was awesome.3. What went wrong?!A lot!  The bus we got for the bridal party accidentally took hotel guests to the wedding, leaving me, my mother and the bridesmaids stranded at the hotel with 30 minutes to go until the start of the ceremony.  Our photographer (who is a good friend) scrambled to get a limo at the last second.Bus woes continued when there just wasn't enough room on the bus for all the church guests to get to the reception.  Folks carpooled and rode with random relatives.  Then, the guest bus got lost and people were calling my MIL, complaining that they were thirsty and the bus ride was too long.  We were taking family portraits at a park at the time and I remember feeling sick to my stomach because of the stress.  When we finally got to the reception, I walked in and saw some of the candles weren't lit and the tablecloths on the escort table didn't match and I almost lost it.  I turned to my husband and was like, "I can't do this.  This is too much."  This despair lasted about 10 seconds.  The DJ's wife came up, handed me a glass of wine, lit the candles and my husband gave me a giant hug.  I walked out to the cocktail hour, saw my friends drinking up, my uncle making people give funny passwords before they could hit the Guinness keg and the Indian relatives complimenting the vegetarian appetizers.  All was well with the world.  From then on, I floated on air.4. What, if anything, would you change?I probably would have hired a DOC.  My mom and stepdad ended up doing a lot of work to set up the reception -- the DIY centerpieces, for example.    I wouldn't have hired the same bus company!  But if I did, I would have given DETAILED information to the driver/coordinator about who was supposed to go on the coach bus and who wasn't.  5. Your best advice for the ladies still planning?#Carry cash.  I look like a drug dealer in some of my photos but I'm really glad I had that extra money on me because I had to hire the limo at the last second, give extra tips to folks, etc.  I think I had $500 on me.  I know, crazy.#Reapply your lipgloss.  My purse got put somewhere "safe" during the reception and I didn't reapply my lipstick/gloss.  I look like a ghost in some of my photos.  For the cake cutting, though, the DJ's wife (god, I loved that woman) gave me some gloss.  #Visit tables.  We weren't especially looking forward to this and my husband is known as "the quiet one" in his extended family, but we ended up loving our table visits.  We're pretty sure we talked to every table and we scored major brownie points with our families this way.  It goes back to what Veena said; let your guests know you're thinking of them and appreciate them coming to your celebration.#Let stuff go.  We're obviously here on the Knot and we see photos of gorgeous weddings and have very high expectations of what a "perfect" day is.  My day was not perfect.  I almost let the bus/tablecloth/candle issue ruin my day (I actually told my hubs the setup looked "ghetto" - ha).  But guests don't notice the same stuff brides do.  People still tell us how much fun/how unique our wedding was.  We tell each other that although our wedding may not have been the fanciest or the most expensive wedding we've ever been to, it was definitely the craziest and most fun -- in our unbiased opinion :)
  • edited December 2011
    P.S. Veena, what do you mean re: the limo guy stalked The Knot?  That's kind of... creepy.
  • edited December 2011
    Such great stories and advice!  Veena I was wondering the same thing about your limo driver?!
  • neha1683neha1683
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    edited December 2011
    a little late, but... :) 1. Wedding Date? 06-06-092. What was your favorite moment of your day (besides getting married ofcourse!) Seeing DH for the first time - our photographer set up a first look.  My brothers carrying me down the aisle.  The reception - especially, dancing and having fun with my family and friends.  3. What went wrong?! Everything was pretty good overall (at the time of, I had no idea there were any issues).  But our priest was VERY late.  My parents were actually trying to figure out what to do if he didn't show up - substitue priest, anyone? Anyways, he did show up, and managed to condense the ceremony, so that we were on time for the cocktail and reception.  4. What, if anything, would you change?  I would have made the event even smaller than it was with only those people who were intimate and special to us, and I would have taken more time out to just enjoy the day, rather than feeling rushed and worrying about how things were going and other people's feelings/thoughts/emotions.  5. Your best advice for the ladies still planning? Enjoy being engaged...don't stress too much about the details (it all falls into place, and no one notices if something small is not there)...enjoy your day - really make it about YOU, and only you!...spend time with your family and those who are important to you....remember the reason behind it all - a marriage: a coming together of two people (no one else matters!). 
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