"Affectionate' Engagement photos

SonaliPop

How do your parents feel about your engagement photos...you know, those ones where you're getting a little romantic? Or, wedding photos, for that matter?

My parents and his parents are of the mindset that they are not stupid...they weren't born yesterday. But, that doesn't mean they want to see something!

It's my wedding / big day. The jig is up. We'll be getting hitched.

Do we take those photos and not show anyone? How can we put them into our wedding album which relative after relative will want to see?

SonaliPop

Just to clarify, we'll have photos like that. I realize we can't kiss in front of everybody, but I sure as hell am documenting our first pieces of affection as man and wife! It's 2010 not 1910.

raangoli

I don't know! I've wondered the same thing! I am with you that its 2010, not 1910, but then again my FI and I are both modest people too, so we will see. I am sure we will have those types of pictures taken, but if we decide to display or share them, we might share more of the non-kissy type of the photos than the kissy types.

Hinaj

Sonali, that's how I look at it, the jig is up.  Its hardly anything to frown about, but yes they should not have to see photos of us kissing because it is awkward for us and them. So why put yourself in that situation? 

This is what I am doing....with e-pics, we wil keep out anything with kissing and keep those jut for us, since I was thinking about using our epics in the wedding for talbe numbers or just to have some pics of us in a nice frame at the reception. 

And for the wedding, I am planning on having our own album that will have all of our pictures and for the parents another set of photo album that won't have something like that involved that they can show to their friends and other relatives.  Although, I think we are hardly going to get time to take any affectionate picture during the wedding because we won't get any time to get away, but I really want to, so I am going to keep thinking how I can do that. 

That's my plan so far. 

SonaliPop

In the photo session during the cocktail hour, I am sure we will have time and I want to be able to take some photos of myself and my husband. I love him, we're married, big deal...we're kissing. I am not going to just sit there in the mandap and take those pictures with every family who attends...I want to make my pictures reflect us. We're a loving, affectionate couple. Yeah, we're modest and keep a lid on it in front of people but if you can't photograph you kissing your husband on your wedding day, when can you?

I like the idea of putting those photos separate. How much would it cost, I wonder, to have two albums? One for us, one for them?

HisBelovedOne

This is why we're hiring a photog who will give us a disk with all the photos on it so we can print our own photos. I can make my own albums and not have to worry overly much about the expense of having two albums printed.

Though truth be told, I'm not sure how much kissing will be documented. I mean, the first kiss, sure, and probably a few more after that, but it's not like we'll be making out all day. I expect there will be more photos of subtle forms of affection - snuggling, hugging, etc. All of which one usually expects to find in a wedding album.

Hinaj

Sonali, if you buy the copyrights for your pics from your photographer, then you can just use shutterfly or blurb and make your own album yourself and give it to your parents as a thank you gift for the wedding.  Most of the photographer offer discounts on albums for parents as well, maybe you can negotiate with them. 

Unfortunately all of our events are in the evening so the shaadi/ceremony is at night and I want him to see me the first time walking down to him before getting married, which means the only time we would have had would be before the ceremony to take pics.  After that, with the ceremony pics with family and etc etc that goes on, I don't think we will be able to get away from wedding, and then there is dinner and etc etc.  So I have to figure out if we can get some time away (maybe while the guests are eating dinner). 

Chances are your photographer will have you taking pics at places and probably away from your guests, since they would probably go into the reception for cocktails, and your photographer might take you to nicer romantic spots for pics, so not that many will be around.  I don't think they will be offended by you guys beign affectionate, after all you just got married. 

Bhanu&Anuj

I agree..the jig is up...for the e shoot pics...I don't really care b/c I know only his parents and my parents (and my sis) will see them...I don't want to show anyone else....however I know his extended family's side is more conservative...so he may not want to even give me a small peck at the end of the ceremony ...but maybe I'll make the 1st move hehe

jnsaini

I agree affection is important for Epics!! Our photographer actually wanted us to kiss for our pictures, I shared them with my mom but she gets too excited and shares them with Dad and since I am still his little girl I get shy when he sees them lol!! So I did pecks on the cheek type of kisses ...but what goes on behind the scenes what they dont know doesnt hurt them..lol

On the wedding day will be doing kissing pics for sure... at that time pops will have understand his lil girl is married now

Hinaj

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[QUOTE]I agree..the jig is up...for the e shoot pics...I don't really care b/c I know only his parents and my parents (and my sis) will see them...I don't want to show anyone else....however I know his extended family's side is more conservative...so he may not want to even give me a small peck at the end of the ceremony ...but maybe I'll make the 1st move hehe
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FI becomes so very conservative in front of his family and relative and my own that I don't think he will even hold my hand.  LOL.  I understand for now, but I don't see the problem with holding your bride or keeping her close.  LOL.  I say Go Bhanu!!! 

SonaliPop

Oh, he'll hold my hand. As conservative as my dads side is, when my cousin got married, he and his wife were holding hands throughout the entire reception! As they well should! He also calls his wife 'Honey' CONSTANTLY in front of everyone...regardless of whether they are his grandmother, great aunt, or cousin!

Hinaj

Exactly Sonali, you are married, you should be able to hold your wife's hand in public!!!  LOL.  I still have time to convince him. 

mbuhpathi

It depends on your family background and what you are comfortable with. We had very romantic photos but they just were not displayed publicly. We will keep them in an album.

Here are some pictures I saw on our photographers blog website which are the tasteful kind that I think are adequate to share with loved ones without being racy. This one is not my wedding but I still get emails from that site and got this one yesterday.

kpwedkk

Wow these pictures are awesome!