Specifically, three of our parents and two of our siblings have been nothing but trouble from the beginning of our relationship. My dad and youngest sister have been great (at least recently - took some work with Dad), but my mom and other sister and his parents and brother have been awful from the start. Not only do they not support our relationship, but they openly and vociferously oppose it for ridiculous reasons - my race and his (lack of) religion. FI and I are at odds over whether or not they should be at our wedding at all.
I am of the opinion that we should only invite people who have been supportive of our relationship. I feel that people who are so opposed to our marriage don't deserve or need to be invited to the celebration of the beginning of said marriage. Unfortunately, they won't just ignore the invitation and not show up. They're all five of them the type to show up at a wedding just to start a ruckus. I would rather not give them the opportunity to create a scene at the wedding, and I don't want to spend the whole day worrying that they're going to cause trouble, especially not with everything else that I'll have to be worried about.
He thinks they should be there so we can basically rub it in that we're getting married no matter what they say and says that he would love to personally throw them out of the wedding if they should cause a row. We're renting the park grounds and there will be no bouncers - I'm not sure how "throwing them out" will work and either way would cause a major disruption and upset the flow and feel of the whole day.
I'm not looking for a "who's right and who's wrong" here. I just want a little perspective on the situation. Maybe having an opinion from someone who's not as in the box as we are will help us come to an agreement
