Unrealistic Dress Expectations?

abrieckinthewall

So the FI and I decided on a date of 7/5/13. A long way out, I know. but that hasn't stopped me from looking around online. and of course I fell in love with a dress. Only my problem is being this far out, I'm scared that it won't be selling next year. I know it sounds silly as I haven't tried it on yet. It is just that I am confused as to whether try it on, and see if it as really as amazing as I think it is. and if it is --then what? do I wait and hope that it's still selling later? Do I hope there is something similiar then or something that I like just as much? Do I order it in the size I am now? A realistic size I hope to be by the time of the wedding? Or something in between? I'm not really afraid of not being in love with it later(hard to say without out seeing it on)-- as the price is 135$  I'm not concerned about losing the cash. It is really for a wedding dress casual and could really just end up being a nice party dress.

IDK.
what do you guys think?

zoiesmurf

I think that you should try it on and see what you think. That may make the decision for you. As far as it not being available later, that it a definate possibility, and if you love it after you try it on, it may be worth it to just buy it now. If you do buy it now, I would buy it in your current size, you obviously have plenty of time to try to lose, but you have no idea what will happen between now and then and the dress can always be taken in, but it is MUCH harder to let a dress out, if possible at all. GL! and Congrats on picking a date!

Sharingourlove

I agree, I would buy it now in the size you are.  You may not like it when you try it on and trying it on in a different size won't give you a true idea of what it looks like on you.  And it can be taken in later. 

And as you said you like it and might wear it as a party dress (as an aside I am having my dress shortened after the wedding so I can do that http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/suzi-chin-maggy-boutique-grecian-gown-plus/3159733?origin=category&resultback=0).

So IMHO I'd buy it and try it!

mgoss228

Before you buy anything, you need to try the dress on.  I think most Brides have an idea of what their "dream" dress is, and then they try that type on, and it's not so "dream-like."  I was like that with v-neck wedding dresses with all lace and no beading, and in reality v-necks made me look like a hooker and lace ended up looking way better with sparkly beading (imo ).

Once you try it on, if you LOVE it, imo you should buy it.  But ONLY if you absolutely LOVE it.  At $135, you could wear it as your wedding dress, reception dress, or even something like a rehearsal dinner dress/Bridal Shower/Bachelorette dress.

You definitely need to try it on though, just so you aren't thinking "What if" for the next two years.  And when you try it on, ask the consultant if he/she has any idea how long the dress will be available.

How much weight do you want to lose?  Is it a realistic goal?  It's better to buy a dress that will be too big than too small.

And you should post a pic of the dress in question 

kinmir30

I second mgoss.....what I thought was my "dream dress" looked terrible on me and I ended up buying something entirely different as well.

erinmmcd

I didn't even have a dream dress in my head, just styles that I thought were "totally not me!"  Turned out those styles looked the most flattering on my shape.

It's crazy how things will probably flip around for you once you start trying on styles.  I would say try everything you're interested in, just to say "yes I tried that," and then if the one you like now is still your favorite, buy it when you're ready, at whatever size you are then. 

zoiesmurf

My other note, is so you won't drive yourself crazy if you do decide on a dress this early, go try on dresses at a bridal salon so that you know you found "the one". I knew that I didn't want a frilly ballgown and a frilly ballgown ended up being "the one" so just go with it and trust your consultant when they bring you something you think is hideous, because they've seen them on people and have a better working concept of what dresses look like on a body.

jennlin

for $135, i'd just buy it. i've bought much more expensive things before.. and like you said, if it doesn't work out, it'll be a party dress.

fancynewbecca

I dunno. I bought my dressed a year ahead of time because the price was so cheap. Loved it. Gained weight. Had to buy another and ended up loving the second one much, much better. Personally, I would wait. )

abrieckinthewall

@sharingourlove --the dress I'm in love with is identical to yours -only shorter.

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/suzi-chin-maggy-boutique-pleated-jersey-dress/3141444?origin=category&resultback=2041

and I definitely decided I will try on the dress soon and see. Like mgross said, I don't want to be thinking "what if" for two years then find out it's too late.

My goal is to lose 15 pounds. I had gained 27 in the 2 years I have been with my FI, so I think it is very reasonable. so I just need to get my butt moving on that one.

dreamwinds

If it's 135, just buy it in your size now but don't set your heart on it as a wedding dress. Like, don't force it to be your wedding dress even if you don't like it 2 years from now. I think if you get it without the expectation that this will be the dress forever and ever, you're less likely to feel pigeon-holed into it 2.5 years from now.

Besides, it might not fit by then (which might be a nice ego-boost down the line ). If someone told me I'd be the size I am now 2.5 years ago, I'd probably have laughed.