We are having a luncheon in the private dining room of a restaurant immediately following our wedding. (Our main reception will be three days later back in our home town.) Following the advice of other budget brides, we did not tell the restaurant when we reserved the private dining room that our occasion was a wedding, instead referring to it as just a "family gathering." Today, I called up to finalize the menu, and came clean about the fact it was a wedding. The only effect seems to have been to have them push a bit harder on suggesting a champagne toast. However, the prices did not otherwise go up. Now, just wish me luck when I give them the names to put at the top of their menu--at which point, they will realize it is a same-sex wedding.