Ok so we've been engage for 6 months (WOW) this month and we were looking at having the wedding summer/fall 2012. . One of my issues is where to have it? I'm from Oregon and I know domestic partnerships are legal there but... long story short I kinda already have one and its way complicated to get rid of it partly because no one really knows much about them. My parents won't come so that's not an issue but some of my other family would like to. We are thinking of having a ceremony in Portland and also gettng it legalized in a place like New York. The question is do we have the ceremony first? or legalize it first? Or not have a ceremony in Portland but just a reception? If I did get "married" in both states then which one is my wedding date??? I don't want one to take away from the other but I just can't seem to have my cake and eat it to! Any advice??