Does Wedding Stress=Silly Fights With FI?

Merryfj

FI and I got into a really lame fight last night right before we went to sleep. Seriously stupid fight about throwing away an empty chip bag (it seems kinda funny this morning). We talked it out and we're fine now. I feel like all this wedding stress and pressure to make things go right has put a wedge between us. I feel so distracted lately. Which is so ironic since this wedding is supposed to be about us and how much we love each other! Anyone else having issues with your FI about silly things you don't normally fight over? Or feeling distant since you've been busy with work and wedding stuff. I feel so disconnected! Any fixes?

Kaye Smith

Same thing just happened to us the other day (the fight wasn't about chips though!)  I have realized through this whole planning process that we don't work well together - as in, our styles of how we do things are just completely opposite!  He wants things done IMMEDIATELY, and I tell him that sometimes it can't always work out like that!  So, the other day, we got into a fight over more wedding stuff - and it just seemed so silly.  Like you said though, talking it out is good, and thankfully, we're okay now.....but you've just gotta remember - this is a very stressful time, so events like these are bound to happen, but in the end, it will only make you become closer with FI (totally cheesy, but true!)

Tygirljojo

Yup, it does.  FI mentioned he can't wait for this to be over and done with so we can go back to how we were before all the planning crap came up!

Merryfj

This makes me feel much better! Weddings are stressful and I'm glad I never have to do it again!

sarack

We fight because we live in this TINY apartment and we have sooo much wedding stuff in our house that I feel like the walls are caving in.. so when he leaves something around, like shoes, clothes, chip bags.. i get irritated because our house is already chaos and adding to it isn't necessary! but other than that, we're good. we rarely fight. love my FI!

BUT, we both can't wait until this is over.. we don't want any stresses anymore and we're ready to move on and start a family.

jennuinne

I think we're actually closer and fight less.  But, we are distant b/c when I'm home I'm on TK or doing something WR a lot of the time and we don't have much time to chill out together.  We do fight, however about WR things.  Like, how I ask FI to do something (like get freakin' addresses) a hundred times, for several months, and now they are supposed to be in the mail and I have like 5 addresses from him and I'm stressing out and being a biatch and he's like, chill the eff out.  I would, if you would just do the one thing I asked!  But, other than that, we're good.  : )

irshis20

Yeah, we've been fighting about stuff, a lot of it wedding related. We both hate how much it's costing, and that's stressing us out. He said the other day, "Now I know why so many people hate wedding planning!"

jennuinne

Oh yeah, we fight about money too.  Can't wait for the wedding and honeymoon and no more planning!

KST_

We get into arguments. I try sooo hard not to be a nag but he only does things on his schedule which is NOT mine, nor what ANY of the checklists say. Just last night I tried to gently tell him I needed him to really steup up his game. The last week before the wedding is going to be crazy insanely busy, so really, it can't count for wedding prep. That leaves us only 2 actual weeks to get stuff done and I can't do it myself.

The arguments will happen. It's just important to talk them out later when you're both feeling better. And make an effort to do "date things" once in a while, even if it's just dinner at home with a 'truce" of no WR/money talk.

Koolkay83

I totally agree with you gals. Wedding stress does lead to arguments and such. I told FI Ithat I cannot wait for this planning to be over so I don't have to plan every little thing for the wedding.

briandbry2010

We haven't fought too much about wedding stuff because we set out with a common vision. I however have been really snippy and tense lately which is driving him crazy. I finally broke down and went and refilled me anti anxiety medication and now I feel like a new woman.

carrieoz_76

Yes.  I think when we hold back on other issues (which we do when we know we need to decide something but we haven't decided to have the conversation yet), it comes out in other ways.  Also, for FI, wedding planning = money stress (although we've about got it all saved up for), so sometimes he can get a little stressed.

I feel like well, if it wasn't this, it'd be another thing.  

dbraulik

YES

ssmith172

My wedding is still a ways off so we haven't started fighting yet.  I like to hope that because my FI is so orgnaized we wont but I am sure that fantasy will be short lived.  My only recomendation would be to set aside an evening with just the 2 of your and absolutely no wedding talk.  Just you guys, a bottle of wine, and a nice dinner.  Surprise him and really enjoy each other and the reason why you are getting married in the first place.... and remember NO WEDIDNG TALK just for 1 night!