Bridal Shower

eav2c

My wedding is three months away and my MoH is throwing me a bridal shower. I am very appreciative of this... However, I am sick over it. I used to fair well in big gatherings but the idea of something that surrounds me is making me truly ill. I told her (and my FMIL) that I really didn't want to have a shower. They both want me to have one--and in hopes of not rubbing them the wrong way, I just let it go. I am really getting sick of this. I want to cry at the idea of a shower... Don't get me wrong, I am appreciative of the gesture. But I feel too overwhelmed with other things that I can't even fathom taking the time for a shower. I have so much to do, wedding-wise, that an upcoming shower is reminding me how behind I am and how scared I am. I love my FI so much--but the idea of upcoming changes and the stress of everything is making me want to crawl into bed and sleep. I really am not one, to enjoy things thrown in my favor... I never wanted my own birthday party or anything else. I much prefer casual things (or even doing something by myself). It's just my personality. I'm trying to figure out if this hesitation is normal or if I really am having unusual feelings... Anyone ever been in this boat?

MinM

You perfer casual things that aren't about you. OK. Tell me about your wedding?

ReturnOfKuus

I feel similarly.  This is why I didn't have a shower.

hmonkey

think about it as it's less about you and more about your friend doing something nice.  also, there will be cake.

GBCK

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[QUOTE]You perfer casual things that aren't about you. OK. Tell me about your wedding?
Posted by MinM[/QUOTE]

eh, I kinda 'get' this.
There's a 'script' and no real smalltalk at the wedding.

zsazsa-stl

I understand your hesitation, and it is okay to ask not to have one, but knowing how to be a gracious recipient is a good skill to have.  If someone wants to do this for you, maybe you should take to heart the spirit in which they intend the gift.