Can I have your advice? Bridesmaids dilemma...

cmromano85

So I am having a hard time deciding on my bridesmaids.  Since day one I knew I wanted my sisters, fiance's sisters, and several friends in the wedding, but my mom and family do not want friends in it.  My finace is having only friends as groosmen, so it's not just a family bridal party.  

I want my friends in my wedding...but my mom is having serious issues with it.  She says having more than just my sisters and my finace's sisters, is way too many bridesmaids.  I've been back and forth with her about it - I really want my friends in it ALONG with sisters, but my mom claims I would be making a "HUGE mistake" if I did this.  Apparently she thinks there will be alot of drama and my sisters will feel left out.  I have listened intenly to everyone's opinions at this point.  But my gut keeps telling me I still want friends included...they are like a second family to me.

What do I do? Please my mom so her and my family are happy? Or please myself but really piss off my whole family?  I feel like this is a lose-lose situation...  

Wzz

i assume you are an adult? as in, over age 18? i think you should be able to make a decision about this without having to consult with your mother. regardless if she is hosting this wedding, i don't see how your bridesmaids are really a decision she needs to be a part of.

if you want to please your mom, then do what she wants you to do. but if you want to have the women in your life to stand up for you in your wedding, then ask them.

IMO this is your decision, and you should just have to check with your fiance if you really feel like you need someone's opinion on anything wedding related.

Wzz

also, i dont understand why the decision to have a large bridal party would upset anyone. if it does, they'll eventually get over it. i highly doubt this will kill anyone.