great.

hmonkey

now i won't be able to look at the mailwoman or the checkout dude at target without thinking, "is that a swinger?"

Dear Amy: "Still Shocked" expressed her dismay at friends who told her they were "swingers."

Millions of swingers like my wife and me are very happily married upper-middle-class professionals. We are the envy of our family and friends for our seemingly perfect marriage.

Of course, none of our family and "vanilla" (the term we use to refer to nonswingers) friends know we're swingers. We would never share that with any of them because of reactions like those of Shocked.

We are incredibly happy people who love each other.

However, we have grown tired of attempting to explain to others what we do, how we do it, why we do it and why our marriage not only tolerates it but thrives on it.

You know swingers. Everyone does. We're teachers, clerks, police officers, librarians, stay-at-home parents — and anyone else you can think of. We just keep our sexual habits quiet because of judgmental reactions.

— Happily Swinging

zsazsa-stl

I'm still judging.  And spraying some Lysol just because.

baconsmom

I don't get WHY you would tell people in the first place. I mean, I don't want my friends to tell me what they do in their bedrooms, whether or not it involves kink or other people. I DO NOT NEED TO KNOW. 

Kink isn't something I think anyone needs to come out about. It's not like an orientation, where obviously you need to say, at some point, "I like the same sex". You can just keep private things private, people.