mother of the groom

scrappiezgrl

this is mostly a vent and please tell me im not the only one who is dealing with something like this. 

my now fiance is in the military and on deployment, I had the chance to visit him and thats when he proposed. he has a short time of r&r and we wanted to get legally married on 12/12/12, save for a wedding/vow renewal whatever you wanna call it. his parents werent too thrilled with the idea bc they knew it may not happen later. so they offered to help pay for a wedding on 12/12/12, we said ok literally this sunday and set the budget at $5,000. well then she says her guest list is 70 people (omg ur kidding right on a $5000 budget) this isnt even including my side (which is maybe 30 people). So the last couple of days ive been staying up till 3am, getting venues emailing making spreadsheets etc. every day since sunday she calls and asks where we are having what i want blah blah. today she calls me and says she was on the phone with family today and "no one would be able to make it so maybe we should just do the legal thing on 12/12/12 and have a spring wedding". to say the least I wasnt happy, this is what we orginally wanted to do! 

my mom is very relax go with the flow, she liked our orginal idea of legal marriage, save and then wedding. my mom was like good grief with all of his moms going back and fourth, and i am so thankful she is so supportive and doesn't go nuts! I'm just waiting for the time difference so I can call the hubby select uhhhh :P

ok thanks for listening.

mrsconn23

I don't understand this at all...mostly because text-speak is being used instead of real words.  Also sentence structure is non-existent.   

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]this is mostly a vent and please tell me im not the only one who is dealing with something like this.  my now fiance is in the military and on deployment, I had the chance to visit him and thats when he proposed. he has a short time of r&r and we wanted to get legally married on 12/12/12, save for a wedding/vow renewal whatever you wanna call it. his parents werent too thrilled with the idea bc they knew it may not happen later. so they offered to help pay for a wedding on 12/12/12, we said ok literally this sunday and set the budget at $5,000. well then she says her guest list is 70 people (omg ur kidding right on a $5000 budget) this isnt even including my side (which is maybe 30 people). So the last couple of days ive been staying up till 3am, getting venues emailing making spreadsheets etc. every day since sunday she calls and asks where we are having what i want blah blah. today she calls me and says she was on the phone with family today and "no one would be able to make it so maybe we should just do the legal thing on 12/12/12 and have a spring wedding". to say the least I wasnt happy, this is what we orginally wanted to do!  my mom is very relax go with the flow, she liked our orginal idea of legal marriage, save and then wedding. my mom was like good grief with all of his moms going back and fourth, and i am so thankful she is so supportive and doesn't go nuts! I'm just waiting for the time difference so I can call the hubby select uhhhh :P ok thanks for listening.
Posted by scrappiezgrl[/QUOTE]

how old are you?

who is paying the $5K? If this is your MIL or mother's money, then they would get the final say in how it is spent.

your wedding is the day that you are legally married. if you are married in December, you cannot save for a spring wedding, unless you're planing to divorce and remarry.

I think that you should be legally married in December if that is what you want, and then you and your FI can just host a small dinner at a nice restaurant for immediate family afterwards.

If you want to have a large reception in the spring, then just wait to get married until you can afford the party that you want.

MrsKathyC

I can see how a 12/12/12 wedding might be difficult for guests, it's a Wednesday.