Hi there!
I am a new poster, but long time lurker. I am recently engaged, but have been with FI for 4 years. My issue is with my future in-laws, or rather, FI's brothers.
FI is the baby of 4 boys. The 2 oldest brothers have made very harsh & mean comments to me over the years. They will be very nice one moment and then catch me off guard by saying things that are so hurtful that I am ready to, or have!, cried.
One example is his oldest brother saying that I probably shouldn't wear white on my wedding day (!) in front of 10 people at dinner.
I tried to change the subject but he just kept bringing it up. I had to leave the table and was very upset. What makes this comment even more interesting, is that he and his now wife had their first child out of wedlock at a very young age. Seriously?!?
Another brother made a remark at another large gathering regarding what FI 'tastes like'... Holy...cow! Really?? These are only 2 examples of many.. and the worst part about this, is that FI is used to his brothers being mean..but I am not used to having family go out of their way to embarass one another. FI doesn't stick up to his brothers regarding either one of us.. I think what concerns me more is that FI really wants to foster some type of relationship with them. I have supported him in that decision, but over time it is getting harder and harder to do so...
So the question is, WWYD? Especially when these 2 brothers' wives are just as bad....
Thanks!
