Wedding Woes

What's to debate?

DH & I are going to a (truly) black tie wedding next month.  DH is a GM, and the groom is a friend of mine from grad school.  Bride and I aren’t really friends.

A few weeks ago, I was at B&G’s house, and bride asked me this: they want their dog (small dog that I adore!) to be their ring bearer.  Problem is that they only want the dog at the ceremony, and want him brought home right after.  So they asked if I’d be willing to bring the dog down to ceremony site early, then bring the dog back to their house during cocktail hour, and come to the reception after the dog is at the house.  All in a fancy-schmancy black tie gown.  The house is probably 15 minutes from where the ceremony/reception will be held, but with parking/etc, I’d basically be missing cocktail hour.  Keep in mind this can all be done by their DOC’s assistant (who will be there the entire day…they just don’t know that they want her to do it).

I’m debating whether I should do this just to be nice, do it and call it a wedding gift, or hire someone to do it and call it a wedding gift.  Or just say no and attend the wedding like the guest I am. (Bingo)

I’m also debating whether I should be a bit insulted by this or whether I should chalk this up to being a GM’s wife and tell myself to help out and like it.

Thoughts?   Recommendations?  
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Re: What's to debate?

  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    edited December 2011
    Can't be all that black tie if they have their damn dog there.

    I love my dogs, but they don't eat people food and don't wear fancy clothes, and therefore aren't going to any black tie anythings.
  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    How about she just says no and moves on?

    Or how about they just scrap the idea of having their dog as a ringbearer?
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    There's that personality I was talking about. Dogs have no place at weddings. Especially not black tie weddings.

    I would say no.
  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I wish Mr. Kuus had let me make Roldy (our guinea pig) our ring bearer.  He'd have looked so cute in a litte tux.
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