I think SIL has PPD

Paulo's Menina Bela

Everytime I talk to her she asks me how I dealt wih Son's fingernails. She's having anxiety over her DD scratching her face. Niece isn't scratching her face to ribbons or anything drastic, but she is leaving very faint marks and that's making SIL batty. She's worried about scarring and she's even worried that her DD will find some old scratch 18 years from now and wonder why her mom let her do that to herself.

I suggested she talk to her doctor and/or attend a Mom group and I've offered to watch her houligans so she can get some alone time. As nicely as I could, I told her not to listen to her husband. He just tells her to stop worrying. Seriously, dumbass there's a deeper problem here.

MinM

Yes, because 'stop worrying' probably hadn't occured to her. ::sigh::

Honestly, Mr. MinM is the first man who ever had the sense enough not to tell me that.

Paulo's Menina Bela

MinM, your H is a smart man.

NOLABridesmaid

Don't they make little mittens for that?

Yeah, she might need to speak with someone.

Paulo's Menina Bela

Yes, they do. The trick is keeping them on, lol. Mittens created a new worry for SIL though. Now she's worried that she'll stunt her DDs motor skill development if she keeps the baby in mittens too long.

DG1

One of our LCs told us the scratching was how they learned where their hands were. 

Really, though. I hope she gets help.  I can send her pics of my beautiful un-scarred children, one of whom was Baby Scissorhands. 

NOLABridesmaid

Girl, make the appt for her. I hear that all moms have moments like these, but it sounds like she is moving into something else.

Paulo's Menina Bela

I wish I could. She's been through this before. I had to explain that having PPD doesn't mean you want to hurt your kids, there are other symptoms like extreme anxiety over simple things.

Son was a baby scissorhands too. I told her about some pretty nasty scratches he game himself and that he healed perfectly. She kept saying, "I don't know why I worry so much abou this, I didn't with the other kids."

SILs also seems reluctant to see her doctor because she suffered some kind of reaction to medication or combo of meds that landed her in the behavioral ward after her fist baby.

I suggested she get a referral to counselor. They're better suited to this type of thing than a PCP.

MinM

I suggested she get a referral to counselor. They're better suited to this type of thing than a PCP.

Yes, they are called specialists for a reason.

mandi921vh

Sounds like she needs to see a counselor.