Advice Needed

Reilly2Be

So I called my FI SIL and told her about a flower girl dress for her daughter that was on sale for an amazing price. I asked if it was ok if I picked it up now since they live in Eastern WA and they don't have the store where the dress is at close to them. She said yes and that the price was good. Well this last weekend my FI and I went over there for a visit and to have our niece try on her dress. When she was trying it on and we were talking about the amazing deal she did not mention once about repaying even though she said she would. 

Normally we don't mind paying for things but she knows we're on a tight budget since we're footing most of the bill for our wedding. How do I go about asking for her to pay for the dress? Is it ok to ask for the dress back after the wedding? I would hate to take my nieces "princess" dress away but my FI and I are really tired of his SIL and brother always getting out of having to pay for things. They're huge tight wads and have no reason to be. I don't want any family drama so I need some advice on how to go about this politely? Any advice would be helpful!

jennlin

how much is the dress? IMO, you should just pay for it. it's a little girls dress, you want her to wear it...and you don't want to hurt your nieces feelings...the dress shouldn't be more than $100....work a couple extra hours over time..babysit..do anything. if you want that look, you should work for it....not the little girls mother.

Archel

Well, if you're going to ask for the dress back, you need to pay for it.  I think they may understand you wanting to resell it, because after all, it's not like the girl is going to ever wear it again...right?

kristend72

You may have come to your last straw but don't make the kid suffer. You might try one more casual, "Oh, hey if you could send a check that would be great. My credit card bill is due soon and I want to be sure I can cover it!"

After that, drop it. If she doesn't pay you, just protect yourself next time. You know her game, now play by those rules.

Reilly2Be

Thanks for the advice everyone! My FI and I decided we're just going to pay for it. Our niece loves her dress and we can't take it back and it's not worth making a big deal over it. I think we were just a little miffed because this past weekend his brother and SIL not only didn't pay for the dress but also dined and dashed when we went out to dinner and we were stuck with a $250 bill...Lesson learned and we know not to expect much out of them thanks again!