~~DG~~

6fsn

I typed this out in the other post.  All one handed while I was nursing so I'm making darn sure you see it.

"DG- Short answer he falls in the "no harm.  no foul" camp. 

Long answers:
How does that work? It works by me going to church with whatever kid wants to go and him saying nothing.  We just don't talk about it honestly.  He knows that they learn about God in church and when I have mom's ministry.  The only rest we've not sent them to Sunday school is because of finances.  DH sees the Sunday school as wonderful stories that teach being a good person.  He also thinks it will help them make an informed decision.
 
How far is he on the atheism scale? I know he was around at the baptisms, you got married in the church, etc. I don't really know what the atheism scale is.  He just doesn't believe there is a God.  He doesn't go to any meetings or anything.  He also doesn't care that I believe that God has a hand in our lives and our family.  I guess he sees that it refreshes me and gives me comfort so the rest doesn't matter.

How does he feel about your taking the kids to church every weekend? Is 6let asking yet why dad doesn't go with you?  DH will go to church if 6let wants to go.  6let does ask to go and DH sees it as something he'll do for his kid.  M2 sees Church as a place to snack and shake hands and go if 6let goes.
 
Is this new(er), or was this all laid out before you got married? I knew that DH didn't like organized religion.  He said he didn't care that I wanted to raise the kids knowing my faith. I'd honestly be shocked if he ever voiced something otherwise. 

I guess it's one of those things that we agree to disagree on.  He's a good person and that's all that matters to me. "

VarunaTT

I have one more question:  what does Sunday school have to do with finances?

Atheism scale is a bit of a misnomer, it's for all religious thought.  Here's a graph with definitions that will help:

I am an agnostic atheist, with trends towards gnostic atheism, depending on how pissed off I am at religious folk that day.

6fsn

At his age Sunday school has a fee ($150/yr).  It's not much, but you also have to commit to a time.  When they were registering I wasn't sure which Mass I was going to like best so I didn't want to waste $150 on something I was going to struggle to commit to.

I'd put DH in the Agnostic Atheist category.

VarunaTT

Huh.  That's interesting.  I just didn't know that.

NOLABridesmaid

They charge. Wow!

Is it a small church? I know that volunteers can be hard to find, but that sounds like a lot to me.

6fsn

It's the second largest parish in the state.  They do not charge for school age children, but he's still in the preschool.  If you volunteer it's free, but $150 is for the whole school year so it doesn't seem that outrageous to me.

AuntFlo

I am completely speechless at charging for Sunday School.  I'd have a big problem with that.  Wow.  But then, I'd have a big problem with a lot of what the church does/doesn't do, so there's that.

zsazsa-stl

Whoa!  I guess I've never been somewhere that they didn't have to beg to get kids into Sunday School. 

6fsn

Hm, I'm not sure why I don't see the issue.  Someone as to cover cost of materials.  I mean, there are ways around it.  They have a kids service monthly that's free.

NOLABridesmaid

I guess we always base things on our experiences. I went to Sunday school as a kid and it was free.. They did charge for vacation bible school during the summer though. I know my current church has free Sunday school for students.

6fsn

Vacation Bible school is free.  I also think they charge to keep people somewhat accountable.  Because it is such a large parish it would be easy for 100 kids to say yay!  and 10 kids show up.  It's also an incredibly wealthy parish so that's not even a pair of shoes for most people.

NOLABridesmaid

Ok. They just flip flopped it.:)

VarunaTT

My experiences are similar to others.  VBS had to be paid for, but SS was "free" (volunteers for teachers and budget from church tithings).

baconsmom

It doesn't surprise me they'd charge. Even if the teachers are volunteers, the heat has to be on, the lights on. At the Cathedral, they'd have to have security present, and all the teachers would have had to go through Safe Environment Training (aka Don't Molest The Kids, OK? class). 

6fsn

I'm going to have to keep posting this until she sees it.