This annoys me

PMeg819

Maybe it shouldn't.Last night, DH was talking with his grandpa and stepdad about going hunting in Wisconsin. Hunting season usually starts around Thanksgiving. DH loves it, and he went twice in the four years we lived in Wisconsin.I wanted to go to my parent's house for Christmas this winter. Even more so now that I'm knocked up. DH said he couldn't go because of his job, he doesn't have the seniority to request the time off and legally there must be a manager present at all times. I was disappointed, especially because DH didn't go back with me last year. That said, he does see my parents, sister, and grandparents at least once a year because they all come to AZ for various reasons. Anyways, DH is pretty insistent on going to Wisconsin for hunting season. He is also pretty insistent that he's not going to Seattle for Christmas and basically said he wasn't going to even bother to look to see what time off he could get. He wants to use my free plane tickets and I'm being b!tchy and saying no. I don't want to go to Wisconsin with him. It would be different if we had plans to see our friends or hang out in Madison. That's not the case. He's going to go sit outside in the bitter cold for 12 hours a day to shoot an animal. I don't do that. MIL's house has no internet, no TV, and she drives me crazy. I'd rather not take that time of work.At least if we go to Washington, I don't have to take time off from work. I can still work from my parent's house. Plus, I wanted to take a little vacation in February or March before I couldn't travel. If he goes to Wisconsin, that's definitely not happening.

PMeg819

I have almost three tickets, so yes in theory we could do that. He's such an anus face when it comes to the holidays. I get it, he hates traveling and he would rather stay at home. I know that this year, he especially would like to stay home because SIL's baby. But this is probably the last year we will travel to Seattle for Christmas because our baby will be here next year. He wants my parents and sister to come to town for Christmas and stay with us. Which is fine, but I want to see my aunts and uncles, plus my cousin had a baby this summer. And it's likely that my parents and sister will come for Thanksgiving.

**O-Face**

I remember vaguely that your H agreed to see your family this year because he didn't go back last year.  Or am I crazy?

VarunaTT

Y'know, for some reason I can't really wrap my brain around all of this.But, I have a gut feeling I would be annoyed also.

PMeg819

I feel mean because he's very close with his Grandpa who is getting older and is not in very good health. He wants to spend as much time with him as possible. We don't see MIL and stepFIL but once or twice a year.  

**O-Face**

You can't help how you FEEL about it.  But there is still time between now and then, so let it ride for a little while. 

ReturnOfKuus

I'm confused.  He can't get the time off to visit your family, but he can get the time off to kill animals for fun?  I'm sure I missed something here.

PMeg819

Kuus, the time off for hunting wouldn't be a time a lot of other people would request off. So he wouldn't have a problem. But everyone wants Christmas off, and he doesn't have enough seniority to get it off. He normally has no trouble getting time off except around holidays.

**O-Face**

You should suggest that you visit your family and make it your own christmas.  That way he can't get out of it and he'll have the chance to actually get time off. 

ReturnOfKuus

Oh, I see.  I thought he said he couldn't get any time off around the holidays, as in, Thanksgiving - New Year.Since he has free time between then, why not visit your family and do a mini Kuusmas then?

loveshine1

I'd be annoyed, too.That being said, we always go to my parents for Christmas, and for most years for Thanksgiving.

baconsmom

Can he go hunting alone this season, and then in January you both visit your family and have Christmas then? Neither H nor I can travel for holidays, or even really host people - so if we want to see family, we just wait until January. I don't see why you have to travel with him so he can go hunting, either. That sounds like a trip for him to take on his own (and with his own plane ticket, too.).