ok but

hmonkey

y'all know how i feel about "you'll understand when you ___."  btw, i bet your aunt won't forgive you for being so condescending to her kids.Dear Amy: "Stick to Our Guns" was upset because her teenagers weren't invited to a family wedding.I faced the same thing when I got married -- I just could not afford to include children.I spoke with my cousins about this. I said, "When you're older, you'll understand," and they seemed OK. I still wonder if my aunt will ever forgive me.-- Wedded NieceDear Niece: The flip side to this is that when you have kids, you may see this differently, but it was your wedding and your choice.

ReturnOfKuus

It may be okay to say this to actual children.  I don't know, though.

jessjo04

I hate when people say "you'll understand when...". It implies that since I'm not older/dont have kids/etc, that I'm ignorant of how the situation works.

TheDuckis

But Hmo, teenagers don't give gifts. They just piggyback on the pathetic $50 check their parents gave. She shouldn't have to spend money for dinner on people that aren't going to make up their plate-cost.

ReturnOfKuus

I was just thinking about this yesterday.  Our wedding was $350 a head, and only our parents made up their plate costs.  It's pretty much expected that few make up the costs, right?

TheDuckis

Exactly Kuus. Unless your reception is at McDonald's, I don't see how any self-respecting person can possibly expect their guests to make up their plate cost.

VarunaTT

Y'know, kids get disappointed about all sorts of crap. They get over it.I also would like you to know that at first I typed, all sHorts of crap.  Now I'm laughing.