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Family taking over the guest list

KathyStroudKathyStroud member
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Help!! I had mother on the phone a little while ago telling me how my aunt is suggesting all these people I should be inviting to the wedding because I've known them my whole life. I come from a small town. (There are a TON of people I've known my whole life)

My mother has already added 14 extra people to the guest list because they're family or old family friends. I haven't seen half of them since I was 13.

My uncle is giving me £200 towards my dress and my mom is also helping out by giving me R10 000. Do they not uderstand that it doesn't help if they give me money only for me to have to spend it on all their friends?

Do I just tell them to keep their money? How do I sort this out without offending anybody? I mean my aunt suggested two people that my mom works with ffs.
Suggestions anyone?
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    "Do they not uderstand that it doesn't help if they give me money only for me to have to spend it on all their friends?"

    Say this to them, ver batim.  Also be sure to tell them that this is not, in fact, a party for them, and as such they don't get their own guest lists.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    You can't take money and then not include them, so have them keep their money and you keep YOUR guest list.  :)
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, come on.  A few hundred bucks doesn't mean that it's your party all of a sudden. 
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  • KathyStroudKathyStroud member
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    edited December 2011
    I realise that it's been discussed before but I couldn't find the posts! Sorry!
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Whoever is paying gets a say.

    If your parents are paying, they get to decide who is coming to your wedding.

    If you're paying, then you get to decide. It's pretty simple.

    Although it's pretty ballsy of your aunt to start barking out orders about how should be invited.
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    edited December 2011
    Tell them to keep the money, and pay for who you and your fiance would like to invite.  Else, run away to Vegas, and spend that hard earned cash as a down payment on a nice house :)

    "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
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