In my previous post, I told you all of how my mother called my wedding "trashy"... it turns out that she doesn't think the actual wedding is trashy, but she thinks that having a ceremony at a winery is trashy. She said she didn't care if we got married outside, its the winery part that has her worked up. Well... then SHE shouldn't get married there...
In addition to that, I decided to ask my sister's opinion... my sister is super religious and a stay at home mom. She flat out said to me "You and Brandon are not religous, you don't go to church and you have no established belief system."
Ouch. why don't you just call me the devil?
Here's the thing: We are trying to find at church that we like and that we feel meets our needs spiritually and that we can also give back our time and talents to the church. My guy and I have only been together since March... we got engaged after two months of dating (but we've known each other since we were ten years old!) and so therefore we haven't had as much time to find a church that we really like and want to attend. We have our own beliefs, but we are still starting out on our spiritual journey. We are getting married May 5, 2012.
I work full-time, forty hours a week, as does my guy. He has weekends off, I do not. In the next few weeks, I will be starting a new position where I will be required to work every Sunday from 8am-4pm... that kind of makes it difficult to find a church. My sister has never had a forty hour a week job. She hasn't worked weekends since she was in high school, and she's 27 years old. She quit her job three months before her wedding to focus on "the wedding".
I don't necessarily believe in everything she does, but I'm not going to tell her that she's wrong because of it. And why is it that I am finding so many devout Christians who are so self-rightous and judgemental? Maybe instead of being rude about it and saying mean things to me about my going or not going to church, she should be a little more helpful and try to assist me with finding somewhere to go. She keeps wanting me to go to her church, but my fiancee and I hate it.
Also, we live 45 minutes away from our families and the church we do like. However, it doesn't have a Sunday evening service. So we are in a pickle because we need to find a church in our area that has a Sunday evening service, and that we want to attend and want to be apart of.
Sorry for the rant.