Wedding planning and Baby planning?

Melaynetulane

This is not so much of a problem as it is exciting. In January, I found out I am pregnant! This will be our first baby and so far everything is going smooth with the pregnancy, thank G-d. I'm just over 10 weeks pregnant. The problem is I don't know how to tell anyone let alone my Fiance. My wedding is in July and we're pretty much done with the planning, I just have to go for my dress fittings, which will be another story. I'll be about 6 months pregnant at my own wedding! So now I have to figure out how to tell my husband to be our awesome news.

Should we start telling guests after we tell our families or is this not even an issue because it doesn't really concern other people? I am not afraid of being judged about having a baby so soon after a wedding, but that they will think I want to have parties one after another - bridal shower, wedding, baby shower, and then who knows what kind of baby related events we'll be having!

I'm excited and scared.

pegasuskat

You have known since Jan. and not told him already? 

mrsconn23

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[QUOTE]This is not so much of a problem as it is exciting. In January, I found out I am pregnant! This will be our first baby and so far everything is going smooth with the pregnancy, thank G-d. I'm just over 10 weeks pregnant. <strong>The problem is I don't know how to tell anyone let alone my Fiance.</strong> My wedding is in July and we're pretty much done with the planning, I just have to go for my dress fittings, which will be another story. I'll be about 6 months pregnant at my own wedding! So now I have to figure out how to tell my husband to be our awesome news. Should we start telling guests after we tell our families or is this not even an issue because it doesn't really concern other people? I am not afraid of being judged about having a baby so soon after a wedding, but that they will think I want to have parties one after another - bridal shower, wedding, baby shower, and then who knows what kind of baby related events we'll be having! I'm excited and scared.
Posted by Melaynetulane[/QUOTE]

For the love of God, tell the man.  Like, right this second.  Log off and tell him.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]This is not so much of a problem as it is exciting. <strong>In January, I found out I am pregnant!</strong> This will be our first baby and so far everything is going smooth with the pregnancy, thank G-d. I'm just over 10 weeks pregnant. <strong>The problem is I don't know how to tell anyone let alone my Fiance.</strong> My wedding is in July and we're pretty much done with the planning, I just have to go for my dress fittings, which will be another story. I'll be about 6 months pregnant at my own wedding! So now I have to figure out how to tell my husband to be our awesome news. Should we start telling guests after we tell our families or is this not even an issue because it doesn't really concern other people? I am not afraid of being judged about having a baby so soon after a wedding, but that they will think I want to have parties one after another - bridal shower, wedding, baby shower, and then who knows what kind of baby related events we'll be having! I'm excited and scared.
Posted by Melaynetulane[/QUOTE]

 that's a huge red flag, how have you known that you were pregnant for more than a month and not told your FI?

(unless he's not the dad, and you're trying to figure out how to break the news to him...)

Melaynetulane

Hardy harharhar, he is the dad. I haven't had a good opportunity to tel lhim. we live apart right now. He lives in Georgia finishing up some consulting work, and I am in NJ planning the wedding. He is coming back up for another visit - his first since mid January!!! - next week, so I plan to make the big announcement then. I am just thinking of ways to make it special because not only is this HUGE HUGE news, but he'll only be home for about a week before going back down to finish up this contract.

pegasuskat

Long distance or not, this is not normal for a couple close enough to be planning a wedding.  If you can't tell him something that big, do you communicate?

hmonkey

[QUOTE]Should we start telling guests after we tell our families or is this not even an issue because it doesn't really concern other people?
Posted by Melaynetulane[/QUOTE]

<em>setting: the wedding day</em>.
guest: congratulations on the bab--
bride: F*CK YOU IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

zsazsa-stl

Ditto Pegasus.

GBCK

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[QUOTE]Hardy harharhar, he is the dad. I haven't had a good opportunity to tel lhim. we live apart right now. He lives in Georgia finishing up some consulting work, and I am in NJ planning the wedding. He is coming back up for another visit - his first since mid January!!! - next week, so I plan to make the big announcement then. I am just thinking of ways to make it special because not only is this HUGE HUGE news, but he'll only be home for about a week before going back down to finish up this contract.
Posted by Melaynetulane[/QUOTE]


I'm busy down my  eyebrows, but they want to just keep climbing into my hairline.

You realise that ther eare 2 parts to this new, right?.  part 1 is  'zomgs, squee *jump up and down*' (assuming this is planned) --that's why people try to make it 'special' (although I think it would take work to have "congrats, you are going to be a dad " NOT be special) .  Part 2 is "zomgs, overwhelming--let me adjust my life expectations and change my plans for the next 20 years/forever",

Part 2 of that is, even when a baby is planned and expected, hard and overwhelming (I'm going to go out on a limb and say even moreso if it's not planned).  He now has 1 month less to do that processing.  Tell him ASAP--it's not fair to give him less time to deal w/ this.

deanabuonincontri

youve known for two months that youre preggers and you havent told your fiance? the man you are marrying? the father of said baby? are you freakin kidding me? if you were that excited you would have told him right away....hell even if you were scared out of your mind most people would have told their fiance!

i guess i'll just answer your question....who cares if youre gonna be 6 months preggers at the wedding? as long as you and fiance are happy and fine with it, thats all that matters. and just announce it like you would any other big life event...dont go out of your way to tell people you wouldnt normally tell and dont go out of your way to hide it.

btw...congrats!