I need your advice

rennienicoli

So my FI and I got engaged on July 21st and set our date a week later as July 21, 2012 becuase it is the same day he proposed. Another week later, my FI's brother proposes to his girlfriend and within a few days they were already asking me how set in stone my date was because they wanted to get married in July because he is going to med school and can only find the time to get married in July. I told them that I'm pretty set on that date because of the sentimental value. Then I find out the next day that they found a venue that is open July 14th and put down a deposit without even talking to us, this is one week before ours. 

What I need your advice on is: I feel really upset and hurt that they would do this. Am I suppose to be angry about this? Do you think I could ask them to reconsider getting married another time of the year...especially a time where they aren't so stressed and straped for time? 

4LeafClover3

Um... I am sorry they upset you but you definitely can not ask someone to pick another wedding date. I mean sure you can go ahead and ask them but that is beyond rude and will definitely cause drama. I understand the sentimental value to you but if they only have time in July to get married then they have the right to get married then. Also, they did not have to talk to you first before putting down a deposit. They are adults and don't need permission from you. It is a shitty situation and your feelings of disappoint and frustration are valid but you just have to try and deal with the situation maturely and rationally. Your wedding will be great in another month... I promise.

choleandjoe

en,It is a delimma.Take it easy.you can dosscuss about it together.and get a good choice.wish help you

TheDuckis

Do you have a deposit down on a venue? Because if you don't, you don't have a date set. And med school timing trumps sentimental value every time. Sorry.

mrsconn23

They did talk to you.  They told you their (very valid) reason for wanting to get married in July and started moving forward with their plans. 

Sorry if it complicates things for you and your sentimental date.  I guess your going to have to find another date if you don't want to have back to back weddings.

You get a day; not a week, month, or year.

zsazsa-stl

Wedding week doesn't sound too terrible to me.  But do you have a lot of family that would be invited to both weddings and need to travel from out of town?  You might want to consider them and reschedule yours.  But really, you have the better end of the stick being the 2nd wedding, imo. 

midgemoto

Maybe you should do a back to back wedding weekend.. you take saturday and we'll take sunday... then all the out of towners can get a 2 for 1.