Friend's Jerk Fiance.

msp319

Forget it.

nicoleg1982

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[QUOTE]So I've had this friend for YEARS.  We've gotten each other through some of the hardest times of our lives.  We had that kind of friendship that would last forever... until he came along.  Her fiance is the King of Douche Bags.  He has done many things over the past months to sabotage our friendship, even going so far as to get in my face about catching the bouquet at a friend's wedding that was intended for her to catch.  I've tried numerous times to speak to them about it, and basically I get nothing.  He's her fiance, so I guess they think he has the right to speak to her friends that way.  Now, we aren't even speaking, but I still want her to be in my wedding next June, but I'm afraid he's ruined that possibility for me.  Help?!  (Please be nice.  If you're snarky, I'll just delete it; don't waste your time.)
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Really?

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Heffalump

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[QUOTE]So I've had this friend for YEARS.  We've gotten each other through some of the hardest times of our lives.  We had that kind of friendship that would last forever... until he came along.  Her fiance is the King of Douche Bags.  He has done many things over the past months to sabotage our friendship, even going so far as to get in my face about catching the bouquet at a friend's wedding that was intended for her to catch.  I've tried numerous times to speak to them about it, and basically I get nothing.  He's her fiance, so I guess they think he has the right to speak to her friends that way.  Now, we aren't even speaking, but I still want her to be in my wedding next June, but I'm afraid he's ruined that possibility for me.  Help?!  <strong>(Please be nice.  If you're snarky, I'll just delete it; don't waste your time.)
</strong>Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]
Now if you delete it, it will waste <em>your</em> time, too.  YWIA.

TheDuckis

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[QUOTE]So I've had this friend for YEARS.  We've gotten each other through some of the hardest times of our lives.  We had that kind of friendship that would last forever... until he came along.  Her fiance is the King of Douche Bags.  He has done many things over the past months to sabotage our friendship, even going so far as to get in my face about catching the bouquet at a friend's wedding that was intended for her to catch.  I've tried numerous times to speak to them about it, and basically I get nothing.  He's her fiance, so I guess they think he has the right to speak to her friends that way.  Now, we aren't even speaking, but I still want her to be in my wedding next June, but I'm afraid he's ruined that possibility for me.  Help?!  (Please be nice.  If you're snarky, I'll just delete it; don't waste your time.)
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]

Now you can't delete. Haha!

VarunaTT

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[QUOTE]So I've had this friend for YEARS.  We've gotten each other through some of the hardest times of our lives.  We had that kind of friendship that would last forever... until he came along.  Her fiance is the King of Douche Bags.  He has done many things over the past months to sabotage our friendship, even going so far as to get in my face about catching the bouquet at a friend's wedding that was intended for her to catch.  I've tried numerous times to speak to them about it, and basically I get nothing.  He's her fiance, so I guess they think he has the right to speak to her friends that way.  Now, we aren't even speaking, but I still want her to be in my wedding next June, but I'm afraid he's ruined that possibility for me.  Help?!  (Please be nice.  If you're snarky, I'll just delete it; don't waste your time.)
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]


You realize delete doesn't work that way, right grasshopper?

Trust me on this, having been through a somewhat similar situation, don't ask her.  Period.  She can be a guest, leave it at that.

Mrs.Thistletwat

she's made her choice and unfortunately it doesn't seem to be you. You can extend the olive branch to her but don't necessarily expect anything in return. And don't expect to come between the two of them.

As for your little PSA, you can't delete our responses. Also, what you might take as snark is more than likely just telling it how it is. Whether you like it or not. We don't sugar coat here.

MotherBucker

I was going to give you some helpful advice until your last sentence

=Turkey=

Chances are you'll be the first one she calls when she's on her way to the Abused Women's Shelter.

You have to accept him if you want her in your life.  She's obviously made her decision to choose him over you.  It's your call at this point.

And if I find out that you are eating turkey's I will choke you, peck your nose off and leave you to the Turkey Buzzards.  YOU GOT THAT?

TheDuckis

As for actual advice, why do you want to continue a friendship with someone who allows her fiance to treat you this way? He may be a douche, but she's a pantywaist if she can't tell her FI to respect her friends.

tawillers

Delete this.  I double dog dare you.

msp319

We're women here.  Shouldn't we be on each other's side instead of jumping on each other for everything?  Jeeze. 

Mrs.Thistletwat

I didn't realize that because we all have vaginas that we had to be all kumbaya

Cant_wait!

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[QUOTE]We're women here.  Shouldn't we be on each other's side instead of jumping on each other for everything?  Jeeze. 
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]
I'm supposed to be on your side because we both have vaginas? News to me! Wrong is wrong, vagina or not.

VarunaTT

Well, your friend obviously isn't on your side, you that whole sistahood isn't really working out for you at all, is it?

Also, people gave you advice.  The advice isn't going to be OMG SHE TOTALLY WANTS TO BE IN YOUR WEDDING AND YOUR WEDDING WILL MEND YOUR FRIENDSHIP, b/c weddings AREN'T UN peace summits, for frak's sake.  Just b/c you don't LIKE the advice, doesn't negate it's usefulness.

HTH, YWIA, EABOD.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]So I've had this friend for YEARS.  We've gotten each other through some of the hardest times of our lives.  We had that kind of friendship that would last forever... until he came along.  Her fiance is the King of Douche Bags.  He has done many things over the past months to sabotage our friendship, even going so far as to get in my face about catching the bouquet at a friend's wedding that was intended for her to catch.  I've tried numerous times to speak to them about it, and basically I get nothing.  He's her fiance, so I guess they think he has the right to speak to her friends that way.  Now, we aren't even speaking, but I still want her to be in my wedding next June, but I'm afraid he's ruined that possibility for me.  Help?!  (Please be nice.  If you're snarky, I'll just delete it; don't waste your time.)
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]

He sounds like a douche, and he sounds like a fool for agreeing to marry a douche.

All you can do is either kick her out with him or accept him with her, and wonder silently WTF she would choose to marry someone like that, and then WTF you're friends with someone who would marry someone like that.

I wouldn't have her in my wedding though. If she asks, be honest. You can't handle her FI.

tawillers

You have to admit, you set the tone of this thread.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]I didn't realize that because we all have vaginas that we had to be all kumbaya
Posted by Mrs.Thistletwat[/QUOTE]

Speak for yourself, TT. I'm a 48 year old man living in my mother's basement with her body stuffed in the corner, like the PR gangbanger.

Cant_wait!

TT- we're on the same page! Is it because we both have vaginas?

Mrs.Thistletwat

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[QUOTE]TT- we're on the same page! Is it because we both have vaginas?
Posted by Cant_wait![/QUOTE]

It must be! Is this like the Wonder Twins power? I'm sorry, CW, but I refuse to activate by touching mine to your's

TheDuckis

Did you ever think that maybe "being on your side" means helping you realize that this person isn't worth your friendship?

msp319

Yeah, but to be so nasty is way out of line. 

I've learned my lesson.  I'd rather cut my left arm off than post on here again.

Cant_wait!

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friend's Jerk Fiance. : It must be! Is this like the Wonder Twins power? I'm sorry, CW, but I refuse to activate by touching mine to your's
Posted by Mrs.Thistletwat[/QUOTE]
OMG DED!

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]Yeah, but to be so nasty is way out of line.  I've learned my lesson.  <strong>I'd rather cut my left arm off than post on here again.
</strong>Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]

Promise?

And who was nasty?  Other than you, obviously.

Anyway, I think I have a clearer picture now of why she doesn't like you.  So that was helpful.

Mrs.Thistletwat

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[QUOTE]Yeah, but to be so nasty is way out of line.  I've learned my lesson.  I'd rather cut my left arm off than post on here again.
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]

A thicker skin and being able to look past the snark to the actual advice will do you a world of good. Both on the knut and in the real world. No one here was nasty. You set the tone with the last line of your post. Had you left that out you probably wouldn't have gotten half the snark you got.

MrsDPRea

Bwahahahahaha!!!!

Oh, what everyone else said.

lisaandcorey

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[QUOTE]Yeah, but to be so nasty is way out of line.  I've learned my lesson.  I'd rather cut my left arm off than post on here again.
Posted by msp319[/QUOTE]


I hope you're right handed otherwise that could be tough.

InksWell

Why did you post in the first place? You knew there was going to be snark or you wouldn't have included the last line.

The only nasty thing I see is a reference to TT and CW scissoring. Grow a thicker skin.

VarunaTT

Good god.  You're a drama llama.  Seriously?  "Cut off my left arm than post here again?"  Schite, we weren't even that mean.  Not like nico wished death on you or anything.

Grow UP.  Maybe your friend doesn't like you either and her FI just opened her eyes to that.  Then she'd be on here complaining about how she said yes to being a BM for a third tier friend and we'd have to  listen to her sorry arse too.