My BFF is being negative about my wedding plans

lilborikua

My fiancee and I been together for 7 years. He proposed a couple weeks ago and we decided to elope. BUT family really want us to have a wedding. After talking we made the decision that we could do a small ceremony and reception with family. Our small family list has ballooned to 125 guest, yes all family.
My best friend was obviously happy to know that I am getting married. That is until I discuss the details of what I want.
I said outdoor beach wedding. She says no do a estate or mansion?
I said the wedding date is in a couple months 5 months exactly, she says no wait at least a year?
I said simple dress especially being beach theme, she wants extravagant gown.
I say I want it to be small budget and DIY and she goes back to you should wait.
I am not doing it small because of money issues. We just like simple and easy.
I like the cute ideas of DIY stuff. I am SIMPLE,

I was not even engaged for a week and she had booked a dress appointment somewhere almost 2 hours away at an expensive boutique, got alot of wedding magazines and spammed my phone with pictures and ideas. Im usually patient and thankful, but its becoming too much. I got my dress for $400 and told her because I was excited I got the dress I loved and for a better deal than I originally saw. She sounded as if I was cheap and said that the same price as a bridesmaids dress? What?

My fiancee and I have been happy doing our own planning. He is so into it I love it. Whenever my phone rings and it is her. I kind of dont want to pick it up because I know she will criticize any of my new ideas.

She called me yesterday and out of the blue says so we need to start planning your Vegas bachelorette party? uuummmm thanks but Im more low key and want to do a party with local friends. Thats too far to bring all those girls. She says wait? who? ohh youre sister has to go and your sister in law too?

My older sister (25) asked me what I wanted and after talking about my wants we decided to a Burlesque/ Moulin Rouge theme party. ( Very cute idea you have to check it out online for ideas it!!)  sooo my BFF says do you want something small and dainty? or big like Vegas??!!

Man oh man, I dont know how to break it to her without hurting her feelings. What should I do???

Thank you for hearing my rant, now I feel better.... That is until she calls!! aaahhhh LOL

artbyallie

Stop talking to this friend about wedding details. If she tries to give you ideas, say "Oh, thanks, but we've already got that taken care of." If she talks about going to Vegas, say, "My sister's taking care of the bachelorette party."

(Although she thinks bridesmaid dresses are 400 bucks? Yikes... I'd drop out if I was asked to buy a dress for that much. My wedding dress was under 500.)

shanaea87

It sounds like she is trying to live her dreams through you. I'm assuming everything that is saying about would be something she would want for her wedding as well. I would honestly just continue trying to be polite with her when she offers up ideas that you don't particularly like.

McKenna2012

I agree you should change the subject when she brings up wedding plans. She has obviously been watching too many wedding shows and reading too many wedding magazines and thinks "this" is how you do it and that you're doing it wrong. My dress was $450 and it blows away several of the $1,000 dresses I tried on.

tiffanycdemeo

focus on what you want.  it sounds as if she is envious and wants to plan her own wedding day! just say thank you and then do your own planning.  although she will probably not agree it doesnt matter because it is your day when it comes down to it. always remember that there will be those few ppl who will be against what you feel is right for you