My apologies if this is too long...but venting is what I need right now...
Backstory-Future in laws are living together but seperated for 6 years (not divorced...not even close). FMIL is being supported by FFIL because she has no job..FMIL has been dating men off and on for the past 9 or so years.
My FI and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. No one has offered to help nor did we ask for any. (My sister did buy my wedding dress which was a total surprise
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My FI and I have decided to not invite my FMIL with a guest because we really don't want the flavor of the week there. Her choice in men has been and still is rather questionable. Of course she is upset...I really don't care...but I digress....she doesn't understand why she can't bring anyone...she even said to me "if i'm dating someone he just might show up" I replied "And he just might get kicked out" her response"then I will have to go with him" my response"so be it..."
This happened on the 4th of July. Since then she's been getting more and more annoying and trying to put her foot down with this whole "if i'm dating someone..." bit...My FI has told her over and over to cut the crap and has even told her he's going to make the bartenders cut her off at a certain point because she grows liquid balls.
The woman is still married, lives with her husband, her husbands family will be there as well as her own. Why in the world would we allow her to bring some random man to our wedding so that she can start trouble? She likes being spiteful but I will kick her arse if she thinks our wedding will be a great platform to act up.
I have said over and over in her presence that "I hope people don't use our wedding as a chance to get smart with people they don't like." My FI has said to her plenty of times that if she acts up he will personally escort her out. You'd think that would be enough to calm her down....I've really been biting my tongue and speaking to her very respectfully because she is my loves mother...
Final note: If they were divorced and she was seeing someone on a regular basis we would have no problem inviting her with a guest...but why should we help her continue to be disrespectful and hurtful towards her husband?
Anyway....
That's all I have to say for now...maybe some more drama will pop up within the next few days lol