via text. I know, I know. Y'all, we have a very rocky relationship and when she is upset, it is really hard to talk to her, so I am doing what I can to get information. If she gets overly upset, she starts to cry and will shut down. I can't have her doing that right now. Plus, it pisses me off because it is a very passive-aggressive way to control a situation.
Anyways - I guess whatever went down, went down fast. She can't answer any of my questions, except the blockage was caused by the mass and the mass was detected via catscan and/or ultrasound. She said it happened so fast and that she didn't even get to see the doctor.
She is going to call me once my mom is out of surgery. I told her to write down what the doctor said (I am not judging her memory - I do this - she is not going to remember everything when she is this stressed) or even better, put me on speakerphone. I sent her a list of questions to ask, specifically, the location of the mass on the pancreas. If it is what it could be, location is important.
Also, my sister doesn't know this, but your pancreas is about six inches long. The mass? Is three inches long. Usually, the bad stuff is found because it starts interefering with other systems and causing pain - like in my mom's case.
Ugh..I wish I was there. My sister doesn't have someone like H in her life. She has one or two good friends, but everyone else in her life is fair weather and the abusive douchecanoe. I hope this doesn't drive her back to him.