the red flag is you, yo.

hmonkey

unless you think he hunts the "most dangerous game."  they're just upset that she lives far away and they can't keep an eye on her and her honor.

Dear Amy: My 23-year-old daughter just told us that she has a 56-year-old boyfriend. This man is my age!

My husband and I are devastated about her choice for her first boyfriend. Beyond that, he is divorced and has three grown children, who quite possibly are older than our daughter.

She attends and works at a university 700 miles from where we live.

She lives with her dogs in a rental house in a remote area.

In his free time, her boyfriend hunts in the area.

Although he is well-respected and liked by my daughter's neighbors, we see a red flag in this relationship and can't get over their decision. Can you imagine where she would be in 20 years if she stayed with this person?

How do we convince our daughter to reconsider this relationship?

— Concerned Parents

AuntFlo

FIRST boyfriend at 23?

DG1

Anyone else think the daughter is a lesbian in denial?

nicoleg1982

I would never be able to have that job.  I would spend the entire day laughing my ass off.

thatgrrrrl

Zsa, have any input?

DG1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_red-flag-yo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:235df9a7-8808-4a14-b32a-03d0ae885194Post:bd00e1fe-24f6-4414-bd66-01c4a41ba62e">Re: the red flag is you, yo.</a>:
[QUOTE]Zsa, have any input?
Posted by thatgrrrrl[/QUOTE]

Zing!

ReturnOfKuus

I think fifty-damn-three dating someone in her early twenties is a pretty big red flag.  But then, I think being in your early twenties and wanting to date people your parents' age is just as big a red flag.

TheDuckis

But really, you guys wouldn't be concerned if your fresh out of college daughter was dating a man twice her age? I wouldn't go writing to Amy about it, and I probably wouldn't try to convince her to dump the guy, but I'd spend a lot of time hoping things don't work out.

DG1

Oh yes. *something* weird is going on there.

But the 700 miles away part, the hunting part, the dogs part, the rental part, and the remote area part are all so irrelevant.

DG1

I am also wondering if the husband/father is thinking "damn, I'm doing it all wrong. Why does HE get to date a 23yo?!"

hmonkey

dh and i have at least two close couples with a 20+ year age gap.  i never really notice when we're hanging out, other than when i talk about reading about reagan in weekly reader in kindergarten and dave corrects my errors because he served in the reagan white house.

DG1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_red-flag-yo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:235df9a7-8808-4a14-b32a-03d0ae885194Post:75635823-5c60-45cc-bb2f-36132cc8cd54">Re: the red flag is you, yo.</a>:
[QUOTE]dh and i have at least two close couples with a 20+ year age gap.  i never really notice when we're hanging out, other than when i talk about reading about reagan in weekly reader in kindergarten and dave corrects my errors because he served in the reagan white house.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

Did they get together when one was 23, though?  Half your age plus 7 and all that. And this is a 33 year age difference.

56-23 =/= 58-35

baconsmom

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[QUOTE]FIRST boyfriend at 23?
Posted by AuntFlo[/QUOTE]
My first was at 24. And I married him. 

zsazsa-stl

Oh excuse me.  I was too busy looking at all y'all's FB photos in an inappropriate manner to respond until now.

Killers come in all ages.  The red flag should have been a college student living in a remote rental house by herself.  That seems a little dangerous.  Did she pick this dude up in the woods? 

hmonkey

I assume he is a professor at her college.

nicoleg1982

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_red-flag-yo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:235df9a7-8808-4a14-b32a-03d0ae885194Post:2f30ea79-7479-4eed-bdd8-6b908a52c014">Re: the red flag is you, yo.</a>:
[QUOTE]Did she pick this dude up in the woods? 
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]

<div>Maybe he has a highly impressive house of taxidermy.</div>

zsazsa-stl

hee @ Nico

I hear that is quite the turn-on.

hmonkey

HEE.