TT, c'mere

nicoleg1982

WTF are you talking about?  You and your H were on the verge of divorce and now you're buying real estate with him?  

thatgrrrrl

We're not on the verge of divorce, we were having a rough time. We're both working on our relationship and our current living situation isn't "safe." It's kind of not an option to stay and renting will cost us more than buying.

We're doing well, things are progressing. I'm seeing a good therapist for my issues and he's dealing with his.

hmonkey

[QUOTE]I'm seeing a good therapist for my issues and <strong>he's dealing with his</strong>.
Posted by thatgrrrrl[/QUOTE]

does that mean he is also seeing a therapist? 

nicoleg1982

Ohhhhh.  Okay.  So what happens when that bandaid falls off?

nicoleg1982

I'm getting a very

feeling about this.

thatgrrrrl

FB

**O-Face**

I feel bad for TT, but I also know that you guys are the "girl, please?" choir.  So...I guess....yeah.

hmonkey

renting isn't just about expense, and buying isn't just about cutting costs.

dh and i were thinking about buying a place about a year ago, and it would have been less expensive than what we are paying in rent but

1) housing prices in this place are crazy for what you actually get
2) we didn't want to be locked in to living here
3) there are a lot of other costs to consider -- taxes, upkeep, repairs, renovations
4) traffice patterns will change in the next six months
5) this kid is going to school some day, and maybe here, maybe not but we have enough time to look at options

it's more than about money.  renting isn't always "throwing money away" if buying is the slightly more attractive offer.

6fsn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_tt-cmere?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:253f4de1-e476-4b9d-882c-1bb8a4050449Post:a9b9bda1-c7fc-482d-aff1-8b6359d449c5">Re: TT, c'mere</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel bad for TT, but I also know that you guys are the "girl, please?" choir.  So...I guess....yeah.
Posted by **O-Face**[/QUOTE]

I'm with O.  This is a little harsh, but it's kinda the way things go.

TT- I hope you really are doing well.

Cant_wait!

yeah no, it's not a little harsh, it's actually kind of fucked up. TT has shared stuff in confidence on facebook, and I'm not sure why it's been brought here. It's one thing to be a supportive group when someone needs us, it's another to be a group of bitches.

TheDuckis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_tt-cmere?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:253f4de1-e476-4b9d-882c-1bb8a4050449Post:07883794-1918-4e4d-9232-2bc1cfe206a7">Re: TT, c'mere</a>:
[QUOTE]yeah no, it's not a little harsh, it's actually kind of fucked up. TT has shared stuff in confidence on facebook, and I'm not sure why it's been brought here. It's one thing to be a supportive group when someone needs us, it's another to be a group of bitches.
Posted by Cant_wait![/QUOTE]

Why isn't there a nest thumbs up on the knot?

TheDuckis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_tt-cmere?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:253f4de1-e476-4b9d-882c-1bb8a4050449Post:ca9beb15-16f2-4381-aab3-39e7a81e7e98">Re: TT, c'mere</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TT, c'mere : I'm with O.  This is a little harsh, but it's kinda the way things go. TT- I hope you really are doing well.
Posted by 6fsn[/QUOTE]

No, it's the way things kinda go for TT and DG. Certain other regs can post all kinds of fckery and everyone eats it up.

**O-Face**

TD, that is why I keep major fvckery to myself anymore.  If I don't always go guns ablazing, I get eaten alive. 

nicoleg1982

I wouldn't be so quick to judge or have questions if she acted (of course, on the internet) like she had any self-awareness of the issues she has going on.  Seems like the dark clouds roll in and then magically it's sunshine and rainbows again.

Wzz and others have family drama, but FFS they lead off with, "I know this is fcked up, but..."

FTR, I welcome any calling-outs of any regs or lurkers.  Let's keep it real.

**O-Face**

Oh man, Nico.  You never mince words or leave us wondering.  I think that is the best thing about you....and the most terrifying.

hmonkey

[QUOTE]I wouldn't be so quick to judge or have questions if she acted (of course, on the internet) like she had any self-awareness of the issues she has going on.  
Posted by nicoleg1982[/QUOTE]

this was the main reason i always went after carrann.  it was like she had no one in her life to tell her "that's effed up" or "that is wrong" and i felt like we were the only ones keeping her from robbing a bank or something.

MinM

Both Nico and hmo have put me in my place when I have needed it. They are my people for this reason. They would never let me walk out of the house with my skirt in my undies.

Cant_wait!

I wouldn't let you walk out with your skirt in your undies either, but if you wanted to fix your marriage and move on with your life after problems? I'd let you do that. AND I'd be happy for you too.

hmonkey

hell, i stopped a stranger who had her dress on inside out and i knocked on a neighbor's door who left all his keys in the lock.  i would want to be told.

btw, tt DID vote me as judgiest.  i wear that with pride, and i also know that tt has good reason to label me as such.  i can only hope it was done with love.

i went after barbie for her issues with her mil, but it's not because i hate barbie or pirates. 

thatgrrrrl

I am well aware of the fvkced up aspects. I know what my personality is. I know the things I want to change. I don't need to be told that I'm a moron every chance you get, Nicole, whether you think it or not. This is MY marriage, not your's. I'm sorry your's went to shyt. I know you worked hard not to have that happen and it didn't work. But I respected whatever decision you made in that case because, honestly, it's your life to live.

There have been people in my life who have knocked me down. There have been people who have been there with a hand up. I accept both and know there is (most of the time) a reason for it.

I'm not GBCKing, I'm not going to unfriend anyone. Like I've said, I respect what you have to say but ask the same in return.

hmonkey

wz, i swear, if we ever meet, i will BEAT understanding into you.  i will.  oh yes.  i will.

**O-Face**

That's because you're a grown up WO-MAN tt, no gbck'ing for you!

NOLABridesmaid

TT, I admit to not knowing all about your situation and I'm not on fb at the moment, but this is your marriage, and I'm all for working on problems when they crop up in a marriage.

Heck, marriage is hard yo, and I know from listening to friends that every marriage goes through hard times. Men can be stupid, and women can be crazy. It just goes with the  territory.

Please recall when everyone was telling HE that she should leave her husband I was always in the "I don't tell people to leave their husband when I'm not married to him camp.

I have seen a few lost cause marriages turn into some very good marriages with a ton of work.


Yes, this doesn't mean when they are knocking them into walls or smoking the rent money up. You get where I'm going.

nicoleg1982

I'm not advocating divorce TT, nor do I think your marriage is anywhere near what I experienced.  You also don't have to apologize that it went to shyt - no one is sorry about it.  

I'm just advocating some common damn sense.  And since your stories, from beginning to the fillers provided after harsh questioning, are like swiss cheese, it's hard to see the common sense. 

I get it though - I'm not you, I don't know you, I don't know your husband, and clearly I can't give you a different perspective to consider.  That's fine.  Good luck with everything.